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This months past craziness......

sunshine's picture

Four weeks ago, my D16 was invovled in a hit and run. Two days after the accident, we was able to find out who hit her. My D16 was sore but fine.

Three weeks aso, oldest SD21 was in a more serious wreck. I have not spoken one word to SD21 since her text to me last year, but I was the first at her wreck scene. Meet the ambulance at the hospital and stayed with her til DH got there. I picked glass out of her body while she laid on the stretcher for hours. I wondered if my presence was stressing her out. I felt strange being there but could not imagine not being there. She spent a few days in the hospital and is now back staying between MIL's and friends. I have not received a thank you or kis my butt from her but instead received her pharmacy bill where she filled prescriptions and had them charged to my account.

During all this, I missed some steps and twisted/sprained my ankle....swollen and bruised and limping,, which that is feeling much better.

DH and I have been what appears to be at each others throats lately. Two weeks ago, we had my mom a 50th birthday party. DH enjoyed himself with others while I was cleaning up the mess and all of a sudden heard DH leave the house without saying anything to any one. I needed his help bu instead I found him at the bar.

Recently, my mom and step dad invited all of us to florida. I know how my DH and mom are so outspoken that I knew with all of us in one room together for a week would be bad. I asked DH to come along with youngest SD16 but expressed that I didnt want drama....

DH was outside Friday talking to some of his guys buddies. My D16 was outside tanning. DH starting dogging me and my family,, "F" her, "F" them, blah blah blah. My D16 got up to come into the house,, DH started apoligizing to her that he didnt know she was outside. She told me what was said,, and when he came home Friday night (drinking) I asked him why he did that. He started yelling at D16 about how he didnt apprecaite her running her mouth to me and that he told her he was sorry. Then it went into my focus being about D16.

My D16 father shot and killed himself when she was 7. She has a very hard time espcially recently since she gratuated high school and not having her dad. Well Friday night, when DH and I were arguing! I told him sarcastically why he didnt go drink another beer or smoke some weed while he was at it. He comes back with "I would call your exhusband but I cant since he is dead, and he probably shot and killed himself because your f'ing ass drove hime crazy". I began having an anxiety attack. My D16 heard this!!!!!!!

She has recently left the house and will not come back. DH is kissing my butt and Im at my wits end....We always have a July 4th party for our families and neighbors and DH helped with setting that up all weekend. But because D16 saw us communicating she assumes everything is okay. Its not okay. I dont know what to do...........Advice!

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Jsmom's picture

My first husband died and if DH said anything similar to what your husband said, I would probably have smacked him and packed a bag. That was uncalled for. I don't condone violence, but my hand would have come up before I could think about it. Certain things are off limits and dead husbands are one of them.

Are you sure this is the best environment for your daughter? She should be your focus. Also, I am an evil stepmom and their is no way I would pay a bill for a SK that I do not have a relationship with. Don't pay it and have the pharmacy send the bill to her. Good luck.

sunshine's picture

I called the pharmacy and advised them that SD was almost 22 and Im not sure how I became responsible for her bill but I refused to pay it and that no one is allowed to charge anything. Hell I dont even charge anything.

anabihibik's picture

Sunshine! I would smack your husband for you if I could. Smile This is not the first bonehead thing he's done. I think the big question here is why does he feel like it is ok to say things about you and your family to his guy friends? How would he like it if you said some cruel things about your SD's, or said F him and F his family where younger SD could hear it? I don't understand why he thinks his behavior is acceptable. Well, then again, how can he even pretend he thinks it is when he knew he owed BD and apology??? He already knows better. Want me to fly down there and use a frying pan on his knee caps?