Colors of the rainbow update
Wednesday is the beginning of visitation with Backstabber/Munchkin Sd14, who turns 15 this weekend.
As I was anxious, it went well considering. She was in her room talking to Kansas City when I got home after almost 2 hours of commute time. Husband was tired and didnt feel like cooking, so after a brief decompression rest, I tried my hand at fish fry, typically his specialty. Before heading into the kitchen (because I did want to learn his secrets) I looked at him as he mentioned how tired he was and how he didnt feel like cooking, narrowed my eyes and told him "now if you were smart about things, you might want to think about teaching your soon to be 15 year old daughter how to cook and prepare food for you, in the event you dont feel like cooking" ie dont count on me...
Because with the eldest, Feral Forger SD 22, well all she ever did was help prepare ONE meal (because I told her she was going to) and start rice in the rice cooker a few times. I think she made coffee twice.
He called B/S in and she skipped around, and battered up some fish, and skipped around chatting, because no matter what she is and always will be a talker.
update #1. FF got a JOB. As a hostess at a local ihop. She hasnt started yet, and her colored hair will need to be brown when she does indeed start, if in fact she did get the job. She colors her hair until it breaks off. Normally a dark brown she prefers hot pink, purple or blue. Well good for her, a step (one can hope) in the right direction. Of course B/M mentions that the "snapped thumb" is being used as an excuse why just a hostess and not a waittress, in a way to demean FF, to which I respond "uhhhhh huhhhhh" (I dont care)
update #2. Toxic Troll is signing B/M up for summer art class. Okay. I did indeed keep my trap shut. Nailed shut. Which was hard - my head wanted to spin around and my voice got deeper. I had to choke down the green bile from my innermost depths of anger and hurt. So, ok, you have an "F" currently in Art. Does this mean that Toxic Troll Bm actually knows about the "F" (I dont care!) and doesnt think to mention this to Husband (I dont care)? Or does this mean that B/M is telling her she wants a class to cover that fact? (I dont care). Or did B/M mention the Painting Workshop I treated B/S to for a "job well done on schoolwork" treat, and thought 'well I can do better/this is MY child I need to control what she does during summer off time? (I dont care) B/M had mentioned that her mother "didnt want her just sitting around with nothing to do"...(I SINCERELY AM TRYING NOT TO CARE) "uhhhh huuuuhhh, thats nice!"
update #3. Got myself booked for a local kayak tour Saturday to learn the ropes and be more independent. My friend wanted to go too, but its now sold out. Its a good morning time, because after about 12 noon the wind kicks up. Its in the bay, so I am a little nervouse but this tour is beginning beginner. Good for families with kids. I have not mentioned this to B/M. Husband will be fishing so - let them go over there and BOND. Now - I have kayaked previously in Lake Superior on a 10-day trip going island to Island in the Apostle Island chain. But there be sharks in them thar waters and whales...and its COLD. B/M is not invited to this, even though she had stated previously she "might be interested". Maybe Toxic Troll will take her (LOL.)
Update #4. Husband is planning the birthday for L'il Backstabber. Shes easy, and he will take her to a friends bday party because thats how he rolls. No need to arrange for food or entertainment. Win! He mentioned that he wanted me there, as a "family". This will be on Sunday the 30th so now I cannot plan much for then. Nothing adventurous, assuming that I survive Saturday.
Nothing much else...Husband did not mention Parent Portal at all. I jabbed him about what a great paperweight his new laptop will be...