How to Set Boundries...
I am wondering about boundries in a situtation like mine.. Here is the back story.
Short Back Story. BF has two kids 3 and 7, I have one of my own she is 10. We have been together for two years and living together for 1. His XWife walks all over him, they have 50/50 custody and since she doesnt work, they go to school by her house and until she finds a job she is "daycare" on the days that he would have them while he is at work, I dont agree that is the best thing for the children but what an i do.
Anyway my BF is great, and our family is great however, neither one of them have boundries with each other, she consistantly tells him to "f" off and uses bad language in front of the kids to make him look bad. God forbid he doesnt answer the phone because that makes it so that she texts him nasty things and yells at him through VM, knowing the kids are right there and she just keeps going with it. I am prepared to let him deal with that, afterall that part is not my battle, I do NOT deal with her in any way, but when things start effecting my plans, thats when i get angry! Example: my daughter had a preformance and it was only going to last about 2 minutes on stage, so my BF made special plans to get off work early, pick up the kids and be home in plenty of time, so he tells his x the plan well in advance and she agrees, only when its time to pick up the kids she is over a half hour away and needless to say my daughters feelings were hurt because her brother, sister and dad were not there. He told his X the next day about how he didnt make the preformance and it was unacceptable, she laughed at him right in front of the kids and told him that that was not her problem.
These are the things he needs to set his boundries on, his X is consitantly late, does not disclose School Information when she is supposed and calls my BF horrible names and refuses to cooperate 99% of the time. I am beside myself on what to do, I feel bad for my Stepson and Stepdaughter, well soon to be, and I see the effects of her comming out of them when they are home, example eating with their hands, yeah 3 and 7 years old... telling their dad they he HAS to buy them something, ect..ect..
Can someone please relate? Thanks for listning!