To the "exes" part of my blog...
It's looking like XH has killed himself.
I'm not sure if I'm upset about that or happy... that's brutal honesty.
It's not the first time he's threatened it, but he's fallen off the grid since posting for the world on FB. No, I'm not his "friend," and no, I don't check his page. BM called me asking if I'd heard anything as BIL had contacted her. (Not sure why, they've been divorced 20 years.)
XH is an asshole, so the world has not lost a great man if this is true. He was abusive in our marriage, and threatened to kill me. (That officially ended our marriage.) He fought me tooth and nail during our divorce over everything. If I agreed to something, he wanted more.
He had the kids for dinner two nights a week and EOW. After less than a year, he left. Took off to another state and had NO contact with our children for nearly two years. I finalized our divorce alone and removed all custody/visitation for him I have full everything. Two years later, he returns, begging me for another chance with our kids. I was remarried by then, but he wanted US to get back together, too. WTF ever. I encouraged our children to work on and repair their relationships with their father. I allowed him to see them one day each weekend and only the kids who wanted to would go see him. At first, they all did, but the same complaints started...he was angry and violent, he ignored them, etc. About five months in, he stopped all contact with them. Again. He also left the state again at some point. He owes $100K+ in CS.
He has posted a "goodbye message" on FB. He left out the child he adopted. If he isn't dead, I may kill him myself.