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SS18 Came, Saw, Tantrum, & Back to BM's

StepUltimate's picture

So yesterday SS had DH pick him up to come "clean" his old bedroom (the one he lost when he got kicked OUT by DH one month ago, as detailed in my prior blogs). I was in the kitchen & got a lukewarm "Hey StepUltimate" before SS went into his old room. Based on the vibe, I quickly turned on some AC/DC "For Those About To Rock" and cranked it up enough so I wouldn't hear the b.s. DH went in and a minute later, and they both came out. "Going driving already?" I asked, but DH said SS wanted to be taken back to BM's house. Okay...

Another "tantrum gets me out of work" episode for SS but no problem for me. Little does SS know he's about out of rope with this act. He dares raise a fuss that we cleaned out the room he's kicked out of?! I am writing here both as an update AND to help me resist the temptation to text SS something like, "It was hard to watch you show up, take one look at the hard work others did to clean your filthy room, and throw a tantrum & demand your dad take you back to mommie's. It would have been much more appropriate for you to THANK us instead of embarrass yourself with a negative-Nelly tantrum. Are you 18 or 8?"

Alas, my StepTalk Disengagenent Guru's KNOW I am not going to screw up like that & give SS any more triangulation-ammo. But you have to admit, temptation to occasionally gloat is strong. Especially given the motivators- drama-free house. So I sanely posted that here instead of stirring the already-pitiful SS into more "it's impossible!" pity-party drama. I am holding DH to the line on SS being able to live here ever again- and it's not looking good for SS right now because DH has just seen & worked hard to clean that nightmare mess of a room. He knows it was wrong to get mad at me for taking away SS's access to our movie subscription app when SS had F's & refused to go to class last year (baaaarely graduated in June), when he couldn't even get SS to do his own laundry, brush his teeth, clean that room... Dude, he got kicked OUT and still refused, REFUSED, to clean, or even finish his pile of dirty laundry. So now it's like 95% done (me & DH spent HOURS clesning, packing, vacvuuming, scrubbing, bleaching, etc. except the laundry. Boo hoo so sad did someone cwean your widdle woom up and hwrt your pwescious widdle fweelings? I know I know, have a MANTRUM cuz that's what it is when you're 18. Pathetic mantrum, from a guy who I'm told is STILL claiming he's going to join the military. 

Good luck with all that, kicked out SS18!

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StepUltimate's picture

... but SS is staying with BM, who trained him fully on playing pathetic, lazy, lying, victim. But complaining to DH how depressing it is there. 

Poor baby. DH isn't doing him any favors letting that slide. Now SS doesn't have to clean the room! We'll see if he does anything else. DH got upset at me today for suggesting SS needs to apologize for showing up & drama-ing out. Whatev. Good luck convincing me SS is ready to move back in in January. This is pathetic.

tog redux's picture

Yes, I'm well-versed in stepsons trained to play the victim by their narcissistic mother!  We hear a lot of that crap from my SS18.  Thankfully, my DH doesn't buy into any of it.

Harry's picture

Had his chance to clean up his room.  Tomorrow, there would not be a sign of SS in that room.  Paint it, make it a office or something other then a bed room.  So now he out a bed room. There no where for him to sleep, O. BMs house 

StepUltimate's picture

Yes, I hope that SS18 will find this Victimhood much less satisfying than Showing Up For Real Life. DH defending SS's b.s. is what really has me steamed. Once again, DH upset with me instead of mr. Slob18 who refused to clean his room.