SD(13) started her period today.....
Sorry if this seems a little personal but.... had to share for those who may have dealt with something similar or may have similar circumstance in the future.
SK's are at our house this week for summer visitation. DH called me at work 30 minutes before I got done to tell me SD started her period and what are they supposed to do. BTW...this is SD's very first period!!
You see, there are no "supplies" in the house as I had a hysterectomy several years ago and don't need them but I gave them a solution to get by til I get done working and stop by the store. No big deal...you just take care of things, y'know?!
Anyway, I get SD set up and we talk about "womanly things" because BM has her so very confused about the whole "period" thing. During our talk it comes out that BM made her wear pads and tampons for a "trial run" when she was 11...so that she could "get used to them". In fact, I know about that same period of time, BM made SD carry pads in her purse even though she had not started her period....just in case....even though she wasn't even developing yet.
Also, SD told me that BM has always told her that if she ever started her period when she was here or at school, she was to call her (BM) so that she (BM) could be the first to know. Now I understand a BM always wants to be there for her children's "firsts" but come on!!! SD even said to me, "what am I supposed to do...only start my first period when I'm at home with BM??...that's not possible" LOL
Anyway, because of the way papers are written up, BM picked kids up for a few hours tonight while they're here for the week....psycho can't stand that they're here for a week without her influence....but that's another story....
so anyway, SD told BM about starting her first period when she picked them up at 5pm. BM was upset that SD didn't call her as well as the fact that it happened here but BM's biggest worry was how much I was "helping" her. BM wanted to know if I helped her put her pad on, etc.
OH COME ON!!!!!!!!! Of course not. I helped SD with advice that she asked for from me.
SK's told me that BM told them at dinner this evening that she doesn't like BF or me teaching them anything....well, duh....we already knew that but somebody's got to teach them the "normal" way that "normal" people do things.
Some of the things that SD told me that BM told her just floored me....but didn't surprise me....but SD is glad that it happened here and not at BM's because we are way more relaxed about things here.
We try to take everything in stride and not get all excited about every little thing (like BM does) and our SK's appreciate that.