Name change to suit my identity.....Having my own pity party :(
I have decided to change my name. I used to enjoy being steppie but I have given in to my true identity as a second class citizen. Perhaps this seems like a pity party and maybe it is but I'm beaten down.
I love my husband, my son and my stepkids but the reality is...as we are so often told that we are....just not always in these words.....but as step-parents....we (and our bio children) become second class citizens in our own homes whenever it comes to our steps. We are the outcasts who will never measure up to the standards of the bio parents even though we are expected to take on the roles of "parents" whenever the step children are present.
We will have the SK's for the next 10 days so I have decided that I will be cook, maid, chauffeur, etc. but if the SK's want something they can ask their Dad.
Lately all I get is grief if I get onto SS who lives here for not doing what he's told so I am done and I told SS so today. I am tired of being the nag while DH sits back and criticizes me (in front of SK's) for getting onto them about things they have been told a million times to do or not do.....you know....things that our own birth children do that we have to "nag" them about. I'm tired of living a double standard so I will just keep my mouth shut.....even though that will also be noticed and criticized.
C'est La Vie