Frustrated with DH and BM
Good afternoon all. Just needing some advice and maybe a little sanity...I am 45 years old with 2 grown children (23 and 21) from a previous marriage, 2 grandchildren (3 and 1), and 3 step-grandchildren (4,3 and 1). My husband as a 5 year old son from a previous relationship. My husband is 10 years younger than me. We have known each other 15 years and we have only been married 1 year, together for 2. So here is just one of the many issues currently going on in my home.
My Stepson has a 1/2 brother from his mother. This 1/2 brother is 8 years old. He is an absolute bully, will call my dog over and then kick her in the stomach. He hits his brother 10 times and each time says "I told you it was an accident" then does it again. He has slammed his fingers in dresser drawers, threw him almost through the net on our trampoline, kicked him off his bike, Tripped him on the concrete so he busted his lip, etc. Totally disregards everything I say (I don't have to listen to you). BM says he has to come with the SS or we don't get the SS. I tell my husband this is not right and I am feed up with it. We have no claim to this child and I am tired of him coming over and beating on my dogs and his little brother. I refuse to let him around my 3 year old grandson for fear he will hit or kick him like he does his own brother. My Husband will not tell the BM he doesn't want this other child for fear of not being able to see his son (this happened about 6 months ago) I tell him to grow a pair and man up but my wants are dismissed. This is causing such a problem that i am about to leave. This has been happening for almost 2 years and enough is enough. I remove myself from the home when the 1/2 brother is there and this causes my husband to get mad at me. Well if you want me home get rid of the kid that is not yours or mine. We had an agreement that this child could come over when he and I agreed to it and not every other weekend with his son. I told him he needed 1 on 1 time with his son as he is always pushed aside for this other child because the older boy plays video games and likes to watch movies that the little one cant. I have serious issues with the way my husband parents (or lack there of) his son and then we throw in this disrespectful turd in the mix and i have had enough. Any advice? or suggestions? ANYONE?????
I honestly feel like my husband would rather piss me off then his BM and im not sure the reason. Oh and let me say she cheated on him during their 3 years together and has continued to cheat on the other men she has been with, to the point where she is now married to a man that she was cheating with (and he was married at the time also)...oh yeah a winner right there let me tell ya.