SS wants to move to Texas to "Be with his family". Really? Did he just say that?!?
We were out to breakfast last weekend and SS (15) says: "Yeah, after highschool I'm going to go to college in Texas. Texas is where I belong. With family". Silently in my head --- Wow- did that just come out of your mouth? Apparently it did because it just keeps getting better and better...
SS lives with us in Maryland. His mom and brothers live in Texas. SS sees mom and brothers MAYBE twice a year. SS has NEVER received a gift from them at the house for Christmas or his birthdays. We have always been the ones to provide Christmas, pay for his Scout trips, provide a nice roof over his head, haul his fat, lazy ass to Scouts and pay for scouting activities. SS has stolen credit cards numbers out of his dad's wallet and then has lied about it. SS has skipped school and lied about it. SS cheats in school (I busted him on his cheat notes once and he begged me not to tell his dad - of course I did.)
SS is lazy - so lazy that he won't take a shower for a week. We have to finally TELL him to go take a shower. SS lies, SS cheats. SS has an attitude of entitlement. SS has NO social life other than Scouts and school if you want to count that. When I was his age, I was having friends over, I was going to parties, I was involved in sports, I was social. I try to get this kid more involved but nothing. I even held a paintball party for his last birthday with all of his Scouts to try to get him to be more social. He does nothing but masturbate, and play video games. We put up with all of this, support him and try to encourage him and he "Wants to be with the people in Texas because family is important" ?!? What the hell? What are WE? It makes my head spin. Seriously spin. WE are more of a family then those "people" in Texas has EVER been and he wants to be with them - the people he sees twice a year - because they are family and family is important. WOW. I told SS - "I think you hurt your dads feelings when you said that". His response was: "He'll get over it. He will have had me through high school. Someone else's turn. But, you should stay in touch." (Oh, well how gracious of you to stay in touch I thought in my head." Then he says to me - "Yeah, mom bought me a year's subscription to XBOX online for a year" (You have to understand that I had just bought him a three month subscription to the same thing. What the hell did he do with that?!?) I need to get her something for Christmas. You can get me something for her right? I said: "No, I won't. You need to talk with your dad about that". I was, and still am LIVID. She sees him twice a year and he wants to get her a gift?!? I am the one that does EVERYTHING for his lazy ass and I have NEVER gotten anything from him! Not one thing.
So, I am torn. I want to say to him - You want to go be with your "family" - why wait - go now but I want to do the right thing. And, after those comments, I don't know what happened but I really don't want anything to do with him now. Not at all. I don't know that I'm going to get over it either. Am I over-reacting or would you all be upset as well? Thoughts are definitley welcome here. Thank you!