Sniff Sniff... I Smell BM Gearing Up to Pull something
According to SS13, BM got in a car accident, car is totalled, she's in pain, blah blah blah. Of course it was NOT her fault and I'm sure she's already looking for a settlement.
Since she now has no vehicle and we live an hour away from BM, I anticipate that transportation may come up during one of SS's next visits. This Saturday night, we are supposed to meet halfway for her Mother's Day visit. I'm sure she'll get that one handled by borrowing her GF's car.
But the following Friday, she is supposed to pick up SS directly from school at 3:15 and I'm not sure she'll be able to pick him up at that time. Plus, she is playing injured as well, so...
We will NOT be doing anything other than what is stated in the court order. If she does not pick him up at 3:15, what happens?
(For extra good measure, I've also asked the school to write her a reminder letter letting her know that SS should be picked up at 3:15 on her days, as they have done in the past as he is not signed up for aftercare on her days, but she doesn't always pick him up on time).
Advice? Input?
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My two cents....Has she bent
My two cents....Has she bent backwards for you? Have you and your DH had to change plans with BM because something in your lives came up? If so, then I'd say maybe be accomodating towards her.
If not and she has been nothing but meddlesome then yes, by all means follow the CO.
I tend to sympathize with people when they have a legitimate reason it seems (and I could be wrong) that she legitimately is injured. Therefore, I might be accomodating this time, as maybe one day I may need her to be accomodating for me.
If she doesnt pick him up, it should be up to your DH to figure that out and your SS Mom.
At least your BM drives lol, mine does, she just doesnt like to waste her money on gas! So she doesn't drive the kids anywhere! But its okay for my vehicle to get wear and tear(she lives an hour away as well). I stopped that after her gold diggingness and prying lol!
Hopefully your BM is a bit more logical, but then again...from your previous blogs, im not so sure! My advice sorry for making this long, what has kept my sanity(besides venting on here) Leave it up to your DH, to figure out! Its much easier! If he doesnt have a car oh well. Mine doesnt have a car, not my problem, when someone else is fully capable of doing x,y & z.
Um, no. She doesn't go out of
Um, no. She doesn't go out of her way for SS, let alone us.
She's popped our tires, put sugar in our gas tanks, and just causes trouble in general.
Sorry to hear....just stick
Sorry to hear....just stick with the court order. Maybe text a day before, asking if its okay that she still get her son...that way he's not stranded.
Man I really dont know what to say to her popping your tires and sugaring your gas...thats terrible. I thought mine was bad. I really should stop complaining.
Believe in the universe, it has a funny way of working things out!
Well, I'm the one that filled
Well, I'm the one that filled out the emergency forms and did not bother placing BM on the forms - though they are aware of the custody arrangement, the restraining order and the history here. This is a very small private school that my kids have attended since preschool and it is a very close nit group.
The court order states that her time begins EO Friday when SS is dismissed from school (3:15). When there is no school on "her" Fridays, then we meet at a half way point at 7 pm - since she does not wish to drive to pick up SS and tried to tell the judge that it's unsafe to meet in front of an empty school. Boohoo. (and DH is not quick enough to think on his feet in court to suggest an alternate location in our hometown).
Well, getting him from the
Well, getting him from the school is not really an issue for us. They will not release him without a parent signing him out (unless she picks up immediately when school is out during the student pick up process).
I guess my question really is, if she does not pick him up and we go get him, then what happens?
I anticipate she will be late and/ or she will not have transportation to pick him up. She will need to borrow her girlfriend's vehicle, but her girlfriend works so getting to the school at 3:15 won't work.
No one in our family or hers speaks to her.
I guess, I just want to cover our butts. If she gets him late and/or decides that she just can't come get him. We certainly will NOT be bringing him to her or doing anything for her.
Does she forfeit her time if she does not pick him up on time? I'm not going to let him sit there all afternoon, so we will get him at 4 or something like that if she doesn't show up. Are we within our legal rights?
She's a difficult one, so we always have to watch what we do - even though she is usually the one in the wrong. (LOL for example, we once told her that we would be 30 minutes late for a friday exchange as we had a wedding to attend and there was traffic. We told her at about 2 pm. She told us if we weren't there, she'd call the cops. We told her go ahead and we'd show the cops her text messages, where she was breaking the order).