It all starts to make sense
BM has put up a good fight and played mommy for nearly 2 full years now after abandoning SS14 when he was 5. I'm sure it's exhausting to deal with a teen ager when all you want to do is party.
DH has always said that she'd peter out... eventually. As she always has. But she has been trying to prove to me/dh that she is a good mom ever since I came into the picture, so she came in hard buying him expensive video games systems. shoes, watches, etc.. oh, not child support or anything we needed to raise him, but she was doing the typical Disney parent thing.
A few weeks ago she texted DH that she gives up and he can have sole custody, blah, blah, blah
She showed up at the child support hearing days later and didn't mention it.
Then SS informs us that she said the same thing to him recently - that she'd just give full custody to dad.
Then last night she tells ss that she will give up her two weeks on / off of visitation during the summer (6 weeks total) so that he can play football.
The thing is that DH APPRECIATES having a minute break from SS. Right now it is EOWe plus the 6 weeks of summer. Those two week visits that he did with his mother last summer was the first time he's had such a break from his child. He also likes to "make" BM take care of her responsibilty toward her son - especially since she pays no child support, doesn't participate in his life/school/world, etc.
I think BM is looking for a way out.
DH refuses to give it to her.
If she wants to give up her custody or file for a change/ reduction in her time spent, she can do it. Or she can just not show up and SHE can be the one to let SS down.
DH is over it.
I'm over it.
she's losing steam...