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BM thinks the world revolves around her

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Submitted by step off already on Thu, 02/28/2013 - 2:54pm

Not that this is any surprise, but BM seems to think that the world revolves around her.

SS13 asked her last night if she would really spend extra time with him this weekend (since she offered to come out one day during the week after school, but hasn't). We told him, when he asked us, that his mom will need to contact DH to coordinate a special visit.

She texts DH this morning saying that she can meet DH half way any time on Friday (she knows DH works on Fridays) or Saturday at 3. We've expressly told SS13 that BM is WELCOME to spend extra time with him, but she needs to come to get him and return him. We have primary custody and we both work full time and I have BD12, BS10 and BS8 that are with us much of the time as well and during the weekends, we are pretty busy with baseball, birthday parties, family parties, etc.

So again, since we can't accommodate HER schedule (she works 5 hours a week), we get to be the bad guy again.

I think she has some nerve, less than a week after the court hearing, where she DID NOT request any additional time with her son, knowing that her son wanted more - that she is offered time by DH but thinks that SS13 must be delivered to her in order for it to happen.

Makes me crazy.

Any of you deal with this?

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Submitted by BSgoinon on Thu, 02/28/2013 - 2:57pm

That is completely fair. Any time we ask for "extra time" or even a schedule change, if some sort of tranportation is required, we do it. That's only fair. We have 50/50 and we still do it that way.

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Submitted by step off already on Thu, 02/28/2013 - 3:04pm

That's exactly what I think and it's the way my Ex and I handle things. Things are never an issue with my ex and I and never has been. So boy was this a wakeup call when I got introduced to BM.

DH was also surprised to see how well ExH and I work together, invite each other over for family activities, etc. It's nice because SS13 gets to see what a healthy relationship between divorced parents can look like.

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Submitted by SMof2Girls on Thu, 02/28/2013 - 3:38pm

We can hardly get BM to give us the time that DH is legally entitled to in the custody agreement, let alone any extra time.

But I could imagine BM doing anything she could to be difficult in any situation, regardless of the consequence to the skids.

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Submitted by step off already on Thu, 02/28/2013 - 3:40pm

How is this possible? How old are the Skids? Can't Dad file contempt (or whatever it's called) or even get a police report to document her not following the orders?

(I'm asking selfishly because I have a suspicious feeling that BM will not follow the orders this summer and want to nail her so we don't have to deal with it again).