Step dog *updated*
My DH lives apart from me most of the time. At the beginning of summer I sent our dogs to live with him. He wanted them originally and I was tired of the barking and the mess and that I couldn't freely travel because I babysat. I have cats. 3 mostly polite, well adjusted cats.
Somehow he went full crazy and adopted a 3rd giant slobbery GSD puppy. Without asking me. He brought all 3 with him when he came home for December and the two older dogs are ok. I spent time training them and teaching them acceptable boundaries. I call these my bio dogs. The third dog is my "bonus dog". She is ill trained, has no boundaries and chews everything up she can get her meaty man paws on. She chewed up 2 pairs of BD6's underwear, a box holding one of MY gifts, some mail that I didn't immediately put out of reach and now my favorite pair of vintage adidas. She also decided to chase one of my cats at 4AM and half jumped on the bed to get to the fleeing feline. She landed in my fanned out hair, suddenly jerking my head back while I was sleeping. I went from nice dreams to pure adrenaline in milliseconds. Did I mention she chewed up a pair of shoes that are no longer made anymore? DH's reaction "do you even wear them?". I do but does it fking matter? I valued these shoes enough to keep them with me for the last 15 years. I upgraded the laces and kept the leather conditioned. They were in the front of my closet for easy access. And now they are trash. "Did you tell her what she did wrong?" I shouldn't have to. This is his dog, he didn't teach her shit and now I have to show her a shoe and chastise her? I'm not her mother.
Manpaws broke into my daughter's room, chewed up 2 pairs of boots and a mermaid doll that we made together. She also tore up a gift that was sitting on a shelf. She is up to 170 some odd dollars of damage just today. DH is acting like I'm the asshole because I expect her to be crated if he is not actively watching her. He actually tried to hide the damage from me. She's like a feral skid that he will literally implode our marriage to protect.