Found my dying hill
I've been married to DH for almost 8 years. Ive put up with him being gone for work 90% of that time, his mother's insanity, the skids' crap attitudes, and being tied down to BM's house and his aggressive dogs. I've cheerfully deflected all the jerks in our community who call him an absentee father and look at me with pity because he was never there for BM, too. I bend over backwards to foster a deep and meaningful relationship between him and DD7.
He is home this weekend for once. My spidey senses were tingling so I checked his texts. The very top one was a conversation with BM. He has been making plans with her to pay to bring SD out to visit him (that's the first I've heard about it!). BM is "concerned" about SD's boyfriend so DH put on his super suit and ran to her rescue "do you want me to chase him off?". Are you fucking kidding me? I work to make sure we make ends meet, I do all the house work, all the lawn care, all the animal care, all the car maintenance, all the home repairs. I take care of everything and treat him like visiting royalty when he chooses to show up for 2 days a month. But he makes plans with BM and doesn't run it past me first?
I told him to pack his bags and get the fuck out.