Love is BLIND and deaf and completely Stupid!
So heartbroken. so tired, so stuck.
DH gave very promiscuous SD 13 a phone for Christmas. I, knowing she would soon have herself pregnant or killed, put a texting and calling monitor on it which DH okayed.
Since DH gets terribly offended by me suggesting SD is not perfect I only notify him if she is doing something that's gonna get herself pregnant or killed.
Anyways, I saw on the news that a 13 yo ran off with a 55 year old man whom she had been messaging with inside of apps so I felt compelled to tell DH that I can't see messages sd sends inside of the apps cuz i knew he would blame me if anything bad happened.
So DH told me to look thru SD phone and social media accounts. Tonight I gave him report of what i found cuz i knew he was dying to give pitiful acting SD back her phone. I showed DH
1. Where creepy older men were following her in apps
2. where she told a stranger where she lived after they asked her where she lived.
3. Showed him that she cusses like a sailor when messaging people in apps.
4. Showed him an app she downloaded that erases all her messages in every app at the touch of a button.
5. Where she had read 40+ teen written books about teens in very sexual relationships.
6. Where she put a password protection on her texts and pictures
7. Told him SD gave me fake username and passwords to her FB and Instagram accounts
8. Didn't even point out that her profile pics in apps are of her butt since that was obvious.
After all that DH asks me "so after looking through everything in the phone did you find anything bad?"
I couldn't believe my ears so I said "Yes!" and went in a circle again about what all is dangerous and bad. I felt like i was talking to a 3 year old. and STILL DH asks me if I found anything bad. I sighed and told i was just letting him know and he angrily responds that he doesn't understand what I showed him that was bad.
At this point I realize DH is out of his mind and slowly inch away to my bed to cry that I married such a wuss, blind, dummy. Who loves his DD wayyy more than me and would rather his DD be preyed upon than man up and stop being her bff.
I'm SICK of always being the bad guy. DH always has ME go thru her phone cuz "im the tech savy one" not that it's hard at all to look thru a phone. So SD hates MY guts and tells everyone im evil cuz I'm always the one that "tells on her" SD Does not respect me at all and yet Im stuck in Dumbville because I stupidly had a child with dummy husband and I would NEVER be able to cope with leaving my young DD with Dummy H and SD who hates DD and jokes to her friends about wanting to shoot DD.
Telling DH tomorrow im no longer going to waste my time monitoring SK phone and he can be the bad guy and wont be my fault when she gets herself hurt. Knowing him I should prolly write up a contract..
Thanks so much for being here for me steptalk people. It's so GOOD to know I'm not the only one that has to go through with this unnatural mixed up crap called mixed family's and Blind, deaf husbands.