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Bradybunchmom's picture

Well I decided to just keep writing, and if people I know read it oh well. I will probably still delete things out after awhile though.

Anyhow BM has a son she had with the man she was cheating on my fiance with. He is a bit over a year i think. They are currently going through a massive custody battle, and she claims he abused him to the point that he is now going blind...apparently from being hit in the head/eyes. I have no idea of any of this is true, its just what she has told fiance.

Fiance asked BM not to talk to the skids about this as it might scare them, pretty obvious that it isnt a conversation to be having with 3 kids in second grade and younger. So what does she do the very first time she calls after fiance asked her not to talk to them about it? The very very very first thing she says to SS5 is that his brother is sick, he is going blind, and has to go to the hospital. So I am sitting there hearing SS5s side of the phone call, with no idea that he has told her not to talk to the skids about it. I thought to myself, gee thats a bad convo to be having with a 5 year old. She gets done talking to him and gets SS8 on the phone. Then SS5 immediately asks fiance why the baby is going blind, and what was the hosptal going to do to him...

He was FURIOUS. She then is dumb enough to ask to talk to fiance after the phone call. He grabs the phone hangs it up and tosses it to the floor. I asked what his problem was. Thats when I found out he asked her not to tell them, and I mentioned it was the first words out of her mouth. He wasn't happy.

I told him to tell her the next time in like 2 or more weeks when she calls to talk to the kids "nope, sorry you told them exactly what I asked you not to, so you can't talk this time" Then let her get all ticked off, and then the next time she calls she wont be so quick to be mean. It was done in retaliation because he ignored all her texts the night before. She did it on purpose. Who has that conversation with a 5 year old just to get at an ex?

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Pantera's picture

We went through this. BM actually stopped once DH took away visitation and phone calls. I could go on and on with horror stories about what she's told SS, but I am going to tell you a somewhat funny one instead.

Our first Easter together, SS9 had just turned 6. We were at my Mother's house at a sit down dinner (all of my family was there, aunt, uncles, grandparents, ect.). So someone said something about Florida and SS proudly says "My Mommy has been to Florida" and someone said thats nice or something like that and SS says "she went there to get surgery on her vagina", HOLY CRAP, well my family is pretty cool and everyone just kind of laughed it off, DH was totally embarrassed (he had just met my family a handful of times before this). YUP, BM had vaginal rejuvination and told SS about it. Who f'in tells thier 6 year old SON that they are going to have vaginal rejuvination???!!! Nice of SS to mention it at Easter Dinner too, lol. I guess you can understand why DH has sole custody, lol.

I agree that she shouldn't be allowed to talk to the kids until she learns how to act right. We are dealing with a 9 year old that feels he can't be a kid because of the crap BM told him and pulled in front of him before DH got custody. Its not fair to the kids, all it does is make them worry. We have SS in therapy and this is one of the reasons why.

"If I turn into another, Dig me up from under what is covering the better part of me" -Incubus

stepmom008's picture

I'm really sorry but that's hilarious! Soon after I moved into BF's house, SD9 saw my "boobs", those stick on ones that I wore under my bridesmaid dress for my sister's wedding. She said "Mommy used to have those but she doesn't need them anymore." That's right... Wilda got a bunch of money in the divorce and what do you think she did with it? Put it into a savings account? NO. Put part of it away for SD's expenses? NO. She went and got new boobs installed. And then told SD about it! Who tells a 6 year old that her mother got a boob job? UGH.

"There are two things over which you have complete dominion, authority, and control over - your mind and your mouth".