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SisterNeko's picture

I think everyone knows at least one BM (not alway ur SO's ex) that thinks that their child is prefect and their skills as a parent flawless, yet you see issues, flaws and/or would like the beat said child sometimes :).

For me this weekend it was SIL1 and her son NS6. I have never really gotten along with her but I try to be nice. She never has anything nice to say about any one else but nothing bad to say about her 3 amazing kids and in demand hubby (BIL1) unless she is talking to them and giving them 3rd degree.

Any way SIL1 was raised in a family where boys were treated like gods gift to women and the world, having been treated like less than her brothers her whole life she thinks it fine to do the same to her two daughters and has even admitted to them (I was standing right there) that they waited NS6 and if he had been first he would have been an only child.

They give him everything he wants but are starting to have issue with her family because even though he is male he doesn't carry their last name so even he is not good enough.

Any way it started Saturday when DH and I got to MILS house early. NS6 was there be haze he spent the night. As soon as I walked in the door he tried to spank me! So I thought I would be nice and play with home while MIL got ready. I was trying to tickle him but every time I got the upper hand he would start trying to kick me in the stomach. Well DH and I have been trying to get pregnant so I backed away quickly. But as soon as I turned to walk away he would spank me again. I finally had enough so I went in and sat down but he just would not leave me alone.

He got into the cookie I made, rather large sugar cookie and ate at least 2 before I had DH move them but when it came time to eat I saw him with another one. SIL gave him a bottle of mountin Dew but he refused to eat his lunch, but snuck in a few more cookies. Through out the day I would say he had at least a half a dozen sugar cookies and two bottles of soda, but no lunch or dinner and SIL1 didn't seem to worried.

I finally had DH move the cookies to the middle of the table where he couldn't reach them which made him angry. After we got in the car I vented to DH about him hitting me and all the junk food he ate and DH had noticed as well. But it not worth saying anything to SIL1.

The next day we got together again and I was standing there talking to MIL when he came up and spanked me... Hard! I whined and told him to knock it off the hurts while SIL1 was right there and she just gave me a dirty look she must have said something to him because he didn't do it any more.

SIL was in a bad mood because the day before MIL invited her Niece over and her Niece is weird, but she felt bad for her. Any way I guess the Niece made some inappropriate comments in front of NS6 about sex, she is really too young to know what she apparently know but that is a whole other story. SIL was venting by me about it and I just kept thinking about NS6 spanking me. I didn't say anything though.

Also thought out the day I had to keep telling Ss7 not to climb on stuff or run in the house because NS6 was, but I never yelled at him, so not my problem. At one point DH told me not to worry a out it all the other kids were but I told him that I didn't want to be responsible if something got hurt including Ss7 who is a klutz.

Ugh It was an interesting weekend. SIL1 also likes to tell me what all these other mothers are doing wrong. While I sometimes agree with her, one could also point out some of the things she does wrong.

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step off already's picture

"I think everyone knows at least one BM (not alway ur SO's ex) that thinks that their child is prefect and their skills as a parent flawless"

LOL - this was me up until my perfect daughter turned about 2 and started hitting me. She was still very easy to correct and did exactly what she was told, which is why I ended up with three children ages 3 and under at one time (including my surprise baby).

... BOY WAS I DELUSIONAL. I just got lucky with the first one.

All kidding aside, my kids are great, but they are all VERY different. Yes, I shape and mold them and they are a product of their environment, but they are definitely wired with some pretty distinct traits.

SisterNeko's picture

DH and I and trying to have our first (together) I told him that I know some of my thoughts on parenting are a little 'creative' and I expect for SIL to disagree with 90% of them but ignorance is bless. Smile I would like to try my way on my kid and make adjustments as needed.

I know my sister was the same way her first was an angle and the 2nd she still can't control some times.