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Time to disengage...

MamaBecky's picture

but not from my SD's. From my H's niece. She has become a beast. It's unbearable. Her mother, my SIL has created her and I am just done with them both. Just a year or two ago niece who is 11 was an ok child. I would go pick her up to spend time with her, let her come spend the night, take her most places we went because I know her mom never did anything with or for her. She has always been severely overweight. My SIL (her mom) is a typical white trash crack addict with a convict H and they are life long occupants of my MIL's home. Yesterday we went over to my MIL's to visit with her. SIL & niece came home from school shopping and niece stormed in the house screaming "Im in a bad mood". I said "That's ok niece no one said anything to you". Which she responded by storming back outside to her mother screaming about me being a fat b**ch and that I should just get the eff our of their house. (she has a good 50lbs on me at 11 yr old!) SIL came inside and I said to her "Your lucky it's just me, she speaks to the wrong person like that and she is going to get slapped". To where my SIL in law too cracked out to get the difference freaks out screaming at me about how "your not going to touch my daughter, I'm her mother and I'm right here". At no point did she correct her child, reprimand her, make her apologize. It is totally acceptable for niece to act like this. By her behavior she is showing niece that it is ok and acceptable to behave that way. It makes me sick. Last year niece was thisclose to being removed from the home by child protective services for educational truancy and lack of morals. Niece wouldn't go to school because all of the kids picked on her due to her obesity and called her names. She had no friends. When she almost got taken from CPS she started going to school and she joined a group of friends that call themselves a GMG crew and they are all complete losers. Now she thinks threatening people (due to her size) and swearing and disrespecting people is the best way to behave and deal with things. She has become a bully and horribly rude. Even with a few friends now there is no way she is going to make it through this school year. She is going to pop off her mouth to the wrong person and get one heck of a surprise. The truancy will still be an issue and the lack of morals is not only obvious but excessively worse then last years. Well last year I was there at SIL's side advising her on what to say to the judge, being supportive, trying to help her stay clean in case they made her drop when she went in front of the court officer. This year, when it happens I am doing nothing. Niece is not welcome in my home, around my SD's, I will not acknowledge her when I go to my MIL's. Her b-day is next month and I will not acknowledge it. X-mas is around the corner and she might as well forget it. She wants to go to the fair with us this coming weekend....it is not happening. I am done with niece and SIL. Just done.