SD's cheerleader SIL is stealing visitation
I have a sister in law whose mission in life is to make sure SD11 is not forgotten or treated unfairly. SD is spoiled and doted on and far from forgotten.
All this SIL ends up doing is making everything about SD and constantly reminding everyone of SD. We can't even mention another child without this SIL bringing the conversation back around to SD. I'll call her SIL1.
My husband has a bunch of sisters and one visited from another country to meet our baby (I'll call her SIL2). SIL1 picked her up from the airport and basically held her hostage for the duration of her trip. SD loves SIL1, and of course, she gives her the most attention, so she picked up SD for the last two visitations and sent my husband pictures of them all hanging out. SIL2 came specifically to meet our baby but SIL1 made sure she spent most of her time with SD, not at our house.
BM and SD are more willing to talk to SIL1 than my husband and I. It's as though we are being cut out of his family and SIL is stealing visitation time. I swear she is trying to keep SD away from us and the baby. There is some triangulation happening and I'm not sure who is behind it, SIL1 alone or if SD11 is doing this to send some kind of message to DH?
Has anyone had this kind of thing happen? I'm fine without visitation but I feel bad for my husband because it's like SIL1 is rubbing it in that SD prefers her and it is such a weird dynamic.