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BM did SS9's homework for him and he turned it in for a grade.

SisterNeko's picture

She wasn't even smart enough to have SS9 re-write it in his own handwriting. DH is beyond mad mainly because she is teaching him that it is okay to lie and cheat. What would/did you do in this situation?

DH found the graded paper in SS9's folder yesterday, I saw it to but waited for DH to handle it. SS9's hand writing is awful and almost unreadable but this was nice and neatly written. He asked SS9 who wrote it and added that he knew it wasn't him. SS9 hesitated to answer kept saying "m". When we finally got the truth out of him it went like this.

Last week SS9 had minor outpatient surgery and had to have all his work for the week in by Wednesday. He claimed that he was having a melt down over the amount of homework due (and maybe some stress about the surgery) so BM did some of it for him. DH asked if he at least helped, nope he didn't help at all he was working on his other math homework. BM just did it and he turned it in. We had to explain the purpose of homework and why her doing it for him is not effective, in addition to being immoral. DH let SS9 know that he was mad at both of them, BM was just as guilty.

Here is how we handled it. We took the assignment and wrote on it that it was not his work, made him re-do it all by himself and write an apology letter to his teacher all of which is is to take to his teacher today.

DH is going to confront BM about it with SS9 present on Sunday when we make the switch. I can't want to see what possible reason she can come up with for it being 'ok' to let you child cheat on his homework. it would have been better to just have him turn it in late or not at all (and get the bad grade).

We also let SS9 know that he did the right thing by telling us the truth because honestly we pretty much already knew what happened and to lie would have gotten him in even more trouble. Smile

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SisterNeko's picture

We have EOW custody, on our weeks I make the boys sit at the table and do their homework when they get home. At their ages once you get them started they can pretty much do it. They will fish around for answers from me, leading me to believe that BM sits with them and feeds them answers to speed up the process. I will usually help them find the answers but make them do the work or play dumb and say I don't know. Smile

Ninji's picture

About 6 wks ago we had the same issue. SS9's teacher spoke to me about it saying that she knew his mom did the work and he was only getting partial credit.

We spoke to SS about it and SO text BM about it. BM lied and said she didn't do it. I told SO that BM needs to contact the school if she didn't do it so that SS could get full credit. She said she would.

Of course she never did because she was lying. She's done this with both kids for years but this is the first time a teacher refused to give full credit.

SisterNeko's picture

I would totally agree with him getting partial to no credit for it, he didn't do the work!

That sounds like something our BM would totally say or do to cover her tracks. A few weeks ago she called DH complaining that SS9 yelled at her for something I did. so I talked to SS9 about it, he said it didn't happen. Then I texted her and asked her if I needed to have SS9 call her to apologize to her for yelling at her and she told me no, it wasn't that big a deal. Which confirmed to me that it didn't actually happen. I told her it was, she is his mother and he should respect her. She since has not complained about being yelled at.

SisterNeko's picture

Well that is why we had SS9 apologize for it, as a way of letting her know what is going on. I don't know if the teacher noticed it or not, I am sure she grades a ton of papers each night. But she knows know to look for it any way.