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Simpleton21's picture

If your child or skid had MRSA would you take them around other families/children/babies while they still had open sores?!?! Just curious what others think about this.....

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Felicity0224's picture

When possible, I keep my kid home with a cold! I refuse to be *that* mom who lets her kid spread illness to all their classmates and friends because I hate when people do that to us. Defintely wouldn't risk spreading something serious like MRSA. Gross.

Simpleton21's picture

I also don't take my kid with any illness anywhere but we're dealing with SD here and of course BM thinks it is okay to expose her MRSA ridden child to the world but refuse DH time with her b/c my son had a staph infection in his blood....according to BM my son will set SD back not vs versa.  Oh and SD is faking taking the meds so she can stay sick.  Call me crazy but if my kid was faking taking meds and wanting to stay sick with an infectious disease I would keep her on lock down and get liquid meds and make sure she was taking them...but I'm just a dumb SM, right?!?! LOL!

Oh and DH is all offended that I don't want to take SD to my friend's house for a swimming party this weekend b/c she has MRSA and I don't want my friend's kids getting sick either....I'm evil!!!! Obviously!!!!

susanm's picture

Does your DH know what MRSA is?  Has he done even a cursory search on Google?  

Simpleton21's picture

He works at a hospital in the cleaning department.  So yes he knows but all logic fails him when it comes to SD and BM!  I'm so over it.  I thought maybe I was being a little over dramatic given I spent a week in the hospital with my 4yo on fluids and antibiotics for the staph infection in his blood.....so wanted to make sure I wasn't just being crazy about it!

Oh and for those of you that are BM centric.  My son had a MSSA staph infection in his blood and has been on antibiotics since the hospital stay.  He did not give SD the MRSA infection that she had weeks prior to him and BM was treating like a spider bite. 

SteppedOut's picture

Seriously, this would make me SO PISSED off. How do you not ring his freaking neck. At least until he passes out so you do not have to listen to his dumb ass. 

Simpleton21's picture

Oh trust me I was beyond pissed.  I went off like never before and told him that his daughter is spoiled and she should be isolated and not doing anything fun until she started taking her meds and not being pampered and rewarded for it.  I told him that I would also make the choice easy for him...he can have his daughter and do whatever he wants but I'm done!  

I've been dealing with this type of crap with BM and SD for far to long.  I'm over it.  I told him he needs to go back to them and fix his daughter's BM induced daddy issues.  

Also, he WILL NOT be bringing SD to the party.  I already told him he could go somewhere with her but I'm not exposing my kids or friends kids to that just b/c SD won't take her meds and wants to be sick.  

WTF...REALLY's picture

 You absolutely never take your children out that have something that is contagious. It’s incredibly irresponsible. Incredibly selfish.

momjeans's picture

OMG. No.

Do you have any nurse friends? It sounds like DH needs an educated smack down. 

Monkeysee's picture

If someone knowingly brought their infected/contagious child around my infant I’d sever the relationship right there. If you (general you) or your kid is sick, keep them at home until they’re better. Parading them around as if nothing is wrong with them is both stupid & incredibly selfish. 

BM allowing SD to mess around with her medication to stay sick is beyond irresponsible. I wouldn’t want this kid near me or my child. DH could suck rocks.

Simpleton21's picture

Agreed, and that is why SD hasn't been to my home in a month and I won't be taking her to the party either.  BM is acting like she is protecting SD from my son (who is not contagious) but I am actually protecting him from SD.  

I believe SD is trying to stay sick b/c all of the sudden she was so upset that DH spent a week in the hospital with our son (staph infection in his blood) but he didn't spend 1 night with her in the hospital over a year ago.  If I recall it was a late night admittance and early morning dismissal and no he didn't want to stay the night with his ex wife.  Of course BM encourages and endorses the dysfunction.  So SD either wants to end up in the hospital (how dare my son get attention and not her) or she is liking the fact that DH has to see her outside the home and expects him to take her out to eat or entertain her.  

If they treated her like the rest of us she would be in her room not enjoying the light of day until she got better but their are no consequences to her actions just rewards. 

Monkeysee's picture

The more I think about this the more angry it’s making me. The absolute ignorance, stupidity, selfishness and downright dangerous attitude & actions by BM, SD & your DH is honestly appalling. I saw your comment below that you mentioned divorce to your DH, this is absolutely something I would leave mine over as well. Not only are they putting SD’s life at risk, but every single person she comes into contact with as well. BM & your DH should be reported to CPS for neglect and endangerment. 

Think about all the imuno-compromised people she could be coming into contact with daily. Babies, pregnant women, people with cancer or auto-immune diseases. MRSA is already highly antibiotic resistant, to mess around with your meds like that could have disasterous long term results. I would honestly report this to CPS, enough is enough. It’s not just about SD this time & her ridiculous faking of injuries. This level of neglect could kill someone. 

Simpleton21's picture

Monkeysee, I agree completely.  It is putting everyone at risk and that is why I won't let her in my home.  Although when BM found out that I didn't want her there she started saying she was protecting SD from my son setting SD's recovery back.  BM is the only one setting back SD's recovery.  

I honestly can't believe my DH thinks it is okay seeing as he works in a hospital and knows how bad it is.  He hasn't had much time with her b/c BM keeps her when she is sick (thank God for that) but I did tell him he needs to go to her next dr apt (tomorrow) and her therapy apt.  BM claimed the therapist wouldn't let both parents go so I told him fine you go by yourself.  The last time BM said she had an apt she lied.  He called the office and it was closed!!!!!  

But yeah.  I'm ready to divorce out of this if he is so incompetent that he can't see why I want to protect my friends and family from Typhoid Susie!

Harry's picture

That can easily be spread by towels, skin contact, ???  I would not let SK into my house until he is all better.  If DH wants time with SK,  he can do it away from home.  I would protect myself and household members from this. MARS is no joke it’s bad. 

Simpleton21's picture

Harry, agreed and that is what has been the arrangement so far.  DH goes to see her outside the home.  Now that we are going to a party he doesn't want SD to miss out.  I say make sure she knows she is missing out and it is because she isn't taking her medicine and we can't allow her decisions to affect others. Basically SD only wants to come to our place if she is being entertained anyways.  I'm over it.  

I told DH to go to her follow up apts and her "therapy" apts this week and see what they say but I'm not taking her to my friend's house period.  I don't even want her at my house.  I'm actually so over dealing with SD and BM and their manipulative BS that I told him I wanted a divorce and he needs to go back to them.  They belong together if he really thinks it is a good idea to risk other's health to appease his spoiled rotten child.  

fourbrats's picture

taken her to the emergency room? Or insisted on a hospital admission (after he takes her)? MRSA is life threatening. There is no way any child in my home would not be in the hospital if they were not getting better after more than a month. If she is faking taking meds then he has a way to get her admitted. 

My own husband came back from Iraq and quickly developed a MRSA infection due to inadequate care after a cut (it's the army, clean, bandage, Advil, drink water, move on). He almost lost his leg due to it and we have to watch every cut or infection 14 years later. He was on four different antibiotics and the last one he had to take for over six weeks. He had separate towels, sheets, silverware, etc and an anti-bacterial soap. He ended up with multiple wounds from it and it was a nightmare. 

Simpleton21's picture

I tried to get him to take her to the urgent care we go to when he got her.  Of course I'm sure that wouldn't be fun and he chose not to.  I think he is afraid of BM still but I don't care. It is ridiculous and it is just a control game for BM.  He is to blame too seeing as I have given him plenty of good advice on how to bypass BM in this case.

With all you have just said I hope that BM gets sick too for being so negligent.  I'm not convinced that SD didn't give this to my son and put him in the hospital for a week.  They are saying hers is MRSA but I don't have the dr notes I suppose it is possible she has MSSA and BM won't admit that her negligence sent my kid to the hospital....cause you know he caused all of this.

Also interesting thing the Infectious Disease dr told us.  He said he rarely sees spider bites and it is usually a staph infection when people think it is a spider bite.  BM has had "spider bites" on her face, her bf has had them, they got an exterminator and sprayed and still keep getting them.  I think these morons are just passing around the MRSA.

SteppedOut's picture

Maybe someone should tip off the health department that she is parading around all over hell and high acre with a serious highly infectious disease. 

Simpleton21's picture

I like this idea.  She took her to a damn amusement park and a cave tour.  I wonder if the family she was vacationing with even knew she had it.  

The only other thought I have on this given BM and SD's history is that it is a staph infection but not MRSA and they are just trying to make it more severe than it is.  I just know she has open sores on her side and she can stay the hell away.