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SASX's picture

The next time I am stupid enough to 'volunteer' to baby sit a 13 year old with an attitude... please remind me of how STUPID of an idea it is.

One more day then SO gets to deal with his darling son all weekend.

I swear to god, if the child was female, I would be tempted to lace all food items with Midol to see if that helped.

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oneoffour's picture

Oh honey, it is just him flexing his testosterone. Now they laced the tea in WWI with bromide to make the soldiers not so 'interested'. It made soldiers a LOT more obedient apparently.

Send him out to fight a dragon or something. Anyway, why does a 13 yr old need a babysitter?

SASX's picture

Because the 13 year old "forgot" all Summer long about an assignment he was supposed to be doing for an hour a day to teach him how to study, organize, read and comprehend on a high school level.

This is BM's week. She had a vacation planned for her and both skids this week. When it came to light FSS did not even start this assignment until this past Sunday, with school starting the 23rd, FSS was no longer allowed to go on vacation. Bio-Parents both feared leaving him at SO's house during the day while SO worked would result in -0- work getting done. So I stupidly said he could come to work with me, sit in my office and get the work done. No SO didn't volunteer me, BM did not pawn her issue off on me, I opened my mouth and invited hell upon myself.

I had a chat with him last evening on the way home from work. Explained that I understood he was angry. But what he needed to understand is that he had no right to be angry with anyone but himself! He failed to do what was required of him as a result, he did not get to go on vacation with BM. He seemed to comprehend that for about 15 minutes. Then we got back to my house and it was attitude again when I made him sit at the table and work on it more. SO has school (college) on Thursdays until 10pm. Yes I did feed the child, but he spent all day and all night working on his assignment. SO will be dropping him off here in about 10 minutes, guess what will start again and continue all day???! Thank GOD SO has the weekend off and he can deal with Prince Charming until Sunday when BM comes back!

(PS: for any curious, DD did not go on vacation in FSS's place. I was not comfortable with BM being around my kid for an extended period)

momSterto3abd3's picture

SASX- I forgot to mention that I just spent 42 days with SS13. He came out to visit DH for the summer. That plan was made without my input; just announced to me. DH usually works nights but because of a work comp injury, he has been on days since SS13 came! The assumption was if I were at work, SS13 would be okay until one of us got home; R-I-I-G-H-T.. Now I have to say this: love the SS13 with all my heart? I rarely got more than 4 hours to myself while that child was awake; even when his father was off from work. But for 41 days this child could be sweet, but I suspect there are some "personal development/Aspbergers spectrum" going on. I did address my concerns with DH, but guess who ended up taking SS to the doctor?
By the 41st day? I was exhausted. I had warned DH that child of his was "plucking my last nerve" as he was as well. This will get ugly over time; as SS13 has stated he wants to go to high school here with DH & I... I already warned DH that if SS13 is planning on this? I will not be disrespected or intimidated by an overgrown teenager who acts like a spoiled 8 year old boy!
He had better be diagnosed and on some kind of treatment/therapy plan in place because I won't allow it! I say to you, just hold on a little longer. In fact, I'm already planning my escape from DH as I type this...lol. I'd be just as content by myself...but DH is adamant that we plan on staying together. Let him dream..
Sometimes I would be so angry with SS13, I wanted to call BM and tell her what a piece of work she gave birth to..and slap DH in the head for actually planning SS13 with BM as they were both alcoholics! Anyway, I wish you luck; it'll be Friday soon. Sending you big hugs! Hang in there, lady!