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Submitted by princessmofo on Mon, 08/05/2013 - 1:39pm

Perhaps I am just being overly paranoid, or perhaps, this was intentional on bm's part. Dh informs me last week that bm has enrolled ss in an extracurricular activity for this upcoming school year. BM lives the next town over, which is where ss attends school. She has enrolled him in 'said' activity in our town, on dh's days. They have a 50/50 split. Those two particular days are my days off from my first job, I work on those 'days off' from my studio at home. So basically, I work six days a week to make ends meet. Dh informed me off all this verbally. Okay, here is where I have a problem with all this:
1) Either they communicated about this (yet again without my knowledge) and arranged it.
2) Dh doesn't even consider this could be a problem with my schedule but didn't want to piss off twat waffle, so he takes it up his ass again.
3) This leaves me up shit creek in regards to my bios, if I am working, they have no opportunity to do anything extracurricular because dh and poc ss trump them transportation wise because I'm working.

Dh had the nerve to say "Well I can take your bios with me, they'll have fun watching ss." Really, fucktard? I'm sure it'll be stimulating for a 6yo and 9yo to watch and not be able to participate in said activity. This just hacks me off! Because I KNOW with every fiber of my being, dh consented to this in some way and had prior knowledge to it, and CHOSE not to tell me. It's the same old song and dance in our twisted union.

So, it has become painfully obvious that truly, I am a single mom. I have no husband to rely on, and I have NO ex-husband to rely on. It's the bios and I versus the world. If necessary, I suppose I will rely on my family (thank god for them) to help me out because obviously I cannot rely on dh. This whole scenario just reeks with half-truths...

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Submitted by princessmofo on Mon, 08/05/2013 - 2:05pm

I agree with the intentional. And the funny thing is she has to pass our home to get to this activity. She knows I won't be able to make it, because I work. And dh damn well knows this too since I basically pay for him and ss's life of freaking luxury. Oh, including this fee for the activity. I paid for that too. He is so very transparent. It's easier to beg my forgiveness then ask for permission. He'd much rather keep bm happy then me.

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Submitted by Onefootout on Mon, 08/05/2013 - 2:05pm

Why in the world would your DH allow BM to control the skid activities in his town and during his week. Is this not something he should be doing himself? I know, I know what the answer will be.

My SO flips out when BM presumes to make any decisions that affect his schedule. He's still seething because she screwed him out of a four day holiday weekend because BM sent SS home early.

I'm paranoid for you. DH totally left you out of he loop. Write him off, and rely on your family, and I guess he won't be getting any favors from you anytime soon. Sorry about this.

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Submitted by princessmofo on Mon, 08/05/2013 - 2:08pm

And he does it all the freaking time, One!! See my previous blogs. He lies by omission. He figures if he just doesn't mention it at all, then it isn't a lie. Yes, it is! And this DOES effect my life, and my bios. But at least now I know where I stand... As we speak, I am looking into some extra curricular activities for me and my bios to do together with out f*ckface dh and poc ss.

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Submitted by princessmofo on Mon, 08/05/2013 - 3:02pm

I imagine he will have the same response another blogger's bm had in the ER and they'll have to call in a mental health response team to diffuse him. }:)

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Submitted by PeanutandSons on Mon, 08/05/2013 - 2:31pm

Yep. Tell him that since he can't be counted on to help you with your kids that you need to cut back your hours.... So in turn you won't be able to subsidize him and SS any longer.

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Submitted by Anne Boleyn on Mon, 08/05/2013 - 3:40pm

I completely understand why you feel this was intentional. FDH and I have worked through a ton of issues and a lot has improved. We are left now with two key issues 1- he won't step up to the plate and straighten out one of his kids who is causing havoc. 2- for the life of him, he can't seem to "remember" to tell me things he and BM discussed. I am so freaking sick of always feeling like the outsider who is the last to know everything.

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Submitted by princessmofo on Mon, 08/05/2013 - 3:53pm

Anne, I think it's "selective memory". He knows he discussed it with bm, he knows it'll piss me off, but f*ck me. I'm not going anywhere, I'm his wife. I can suck it. It's more important not to step on twat waffles toes. Seriously, today I feel like a blood vessel is going to pop in my brain and I'm going to have a stroke. My mother (I love her but she's a Captain in the Shit Stirrers Brigade) got me all fired up about it today. She was rambling about the lottery and how if she won, she wouldn't be able to give me a dime because twat waffle would come after it, in dh's name (which I agree horseface would try it). And I screamed at her that she wouldn't have to worry because the first I would do if she won was divorce dh and send him packing. Problem solved. Ugh!!! Is it five o'clock yet? I need a drink...