Aaaand here we go again...
Yesterday after work, I was getting ready to take ysd back to the brothel, (Voldemort's lair), when ysd asks if she can talk to me about something. I already know what's coming. The basics are:
1. Regardless of how many times she's told Voldemort that she (ysd) does NOT want to meet any of her, (Voldey's), "boyfriends" Voldey insists that she meet them. Voldey has been dating Kendoll for around a month now. She tried to entice ysd into meeting him with the lines, "But I think he's really special", and, "But you could go out on his boat on Lake Michigan and it would be really fun!". Ysd also said that she has seen Kendoll's truck there after 10 pm.
2. After the stunt ysd pulled staying out late one night, she had consequences at the lair as well as at the apartment. Her concern is that regardless of what she does, how early she comes home, Voldemort is not happy with her and finds something to nit-pick about. [I think it's due to ysd not wanting to meet the Kendoll]
3. Evidently Voldemort told ysd that the only reason ysd wants to come over to the apartment more is because she can, "do whatever she wants with no supervision". That's funny.
Okay short explanation: Generally, I don't have these conversations with ysd because it's really not my place. Very recently, she stayed in a mental health facility on a 72 hour hold for swallowing a bottle of Tylenol. I felt like I needed to let her talk since she RARELY talks about anything that's bothering her, let alone her feelings. She's been in therapy since the incident and is doing very well, the talking about things is an enormous deal.
I didn't offer any advice or information. I did tell her I was glad she opened up to me and that this were things she needed to talk about with her dad. She thanked me for listening and asked me if I would convey the basic points to dh. I agreed to do so, and did last night. They should be getting down to that conversation right about now.
There was a little more to it that what I put here. I'm now worried that we will have another situation like we did with osd on our hands: osd left her mother's and NEVER went back and that was that. Voldemort didn't raise a fuss because she is afraid of osd, (Voldey doesn't like conflict and osd called Voldey on ALL her bad parenting, constantly), but with ysd there will be more of a fight. I know there's nothing I can do about it, however I feel as though I need to be prepared for battle. I don't want to sway my husband either way, and I certainly don't want to see ysd go through what osd went through. Gah, I dunno...as always, questions, comments, suggestions welcome and thanks for reading!
EDIT: YSd also said that Voldey wanted to sit down and have a conversation with ysd and ysd's best friend because Voldey suspects that the best friend is a bad influence. This kid is fine, she's spent lots of time at the apartment and she and ysd generally watch tv, eat food and go to the hot tub/pool. If I were this kids mother, I'd put my foot in Voldemort's ass before I allowed her to, "have a discussion", with my kid. Ysd now doesn't want her bff at the lair...Voldemort alienated ysd from her bff from child hood, (that's another post), and now she's trying to do it again.