Updates updates updates... and some seriously pissed off skids!
Sorry I did not update last evening, it was a busy night at the house.
I came home to my entire house clean, and my FIL standing outside directing the skids on how to clean gutters and wash a house. Apparently he ran out of things inside for them to clean. I went in to start making dinner for everyone and skid#1 showed up wanting to know if she could help. Otherwise known as she wanted to not clean gutters and cook instead, less labor intensive apparently. I told her to ask her pawpaw and if he said it was ok, then fine. Nope. She went back to cleaning gutters.
DH made it home, we all ate. Then DH told the kids to go empty the trunk of his car. The trunk was full of boxes, empty, collapsed boxes. Smart ass skid#3 actually asked her father if he was making me move out. He reminded her it was actually MY house... so if anyone moved it would be THEM. But no the boxes were not for moving. DH had them pack of EVERYTHING in their rooms. Literally broke their beds down as well and stripped pictures and posters off the walls. All this crap is now in boxes, in my garage. Grounded from literally everything. FIL set up cots in their rooms. They have 5 changes of clothes, the cots, one pillow, a blanket, and one pair of shoes each. Everything else is gone. Per DH they did not appreciate nor care for what was given to them out of love, so now they can earn it all back.
I actually pulled DH and FIL outside and asked if maybe perhaps we were going a bit far. FIL informed me I was not allowed to 'p*ssy' out at this point they needed to hit rock bottom to rebuild themselves into people that he wouldn't be ashamed to call family. Then DH filled me in on the rest. The two oldest skids went to the office at school yesterday claiming abuse because DH and FIL woke them up and made them do drills. On top of my making them walk the day prior. Granted the admin at their school told them it is not abuse for your parents to punish you, but DH was seriously bent that they would attempt to claim abuse not just on him but also their grandfather.
DH took time off from work and is off now fri/sat/sun. FIL is staying through the weekend. He and I had a chat last night and he feels that while he may have taught his son how to be a man, he did not teach him how to be a father and he is determined to correct that oversite. I talked to my mother in law this morning, I am headed to her house for the weekend. Since FIL and DH will be playing Drill Seargants, her and I are having a girls weekend. Shopping, coffee, girl talk and she wants to teach me how to quilt. :? Not sure why, but ok, time away from my house that currently sounds like a Marine Boot Camp sounds good to me!