Skid #2 is in Juvie
DH and I went out to dinner last night. Date night for us and considering the problems we have been having with skid#2 I had my brother come over and stay while we went out. He was also helping skid#1 with a new project. We were gone for an hour when skid#1 called us and said the cops were at the house we needed to get home.
Skid#2 went off on my brother and started swinging. 15 year old vs a 19 year old. Short pudgy 15 year old, vs tall, muscular, 19 yo who takes Tai-Kwon-do. I figured the skid was going to be a bloody mark on the floor. My brother drug him outside to get him away from the other kids and so he couldnt break anything in the house, then stood there and let the kid pound on him. Never swung back, apparently figuring he would get nailed for child abuse if he did. Skid#1 was the one that called the cops, tired of how her brother was acting. When we got home the skid was already cuffed and stuffed in the back of a car. Took a few minutes to explain that my brother and the skid are technically step uncle/step nephew, and due to family relations raised as step brothers.
Skid#2 was arrested for DV for beating on a family member, per the cop will likely get reduced to battery, when it gets to court. I guess our state DV is related by "blood or marriage" for defining a family member. Skid#2 was begging DH to get him out of this, and DH walked away after telling him you reap what you sow. DH is refusing to sign him out of Juvenile Hall. Says he can sit there until first appearance Monday afternoon and IF the judge lets him go home then he will be headed to a treatment center. Councelors office was already closed, but he left a message with the answering service that he needs a phone number for an in patient treatment program/ facility for Skid#2.
Skids 1,3,4 all agree he is acting more and more like their BM and he is scaring them with his mood swings and violent outbursts. DH is aware if the kid swings on me I am going to flatten him. He will need an ambulance, not a cop to deal with the aftermath. He is finally seeing this kid needs HELP, intensive professional help, not just an occational foot up his ass to keep him in line.
The rest of the skids are a little subdued last night and this morning. Skid #1 is rather proud of herself for calling the cops I think, stating that my brother has never been anything but nice to all of them and skid #2 had no right or business taking his issues out on him and starting a fight.
DH is quiet. Angry over skid#2s behavior, but quiet and thinking. I am leaving him alone to do it. At this point I think he has the message this kid is messed up, he doesn't need my reminders of how messed up, I think he is remembering each and every outburst and reliving it in his mind.
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Kudos to your brother -
Kudos to your brother - remarkable thinking & restraint for a nineteen year old - Hope you get him something special not to mention a lifetime of free babysitting when he needs it.
Wow I am both sorry and glad
Wow I am both sorry and glad this happened - hopefully sk2 will finally get it one day!!! your brother is great btw
Sad, really sad. Poor you,
Sad, really sad. Poor you, poor dad. I've got a brother so vicious and made family life hell at most times. I feel for you. Like I told my mom, don't do anything that will put you in prison, put the sheriff on speed dial that's what they're for.
Stay strong. You sound like you've got a good head on your shoulders letting your husband deal with this issue. What a huge disappointment that is for him. Instead of the kid have a positive energy and fun to be around, he's got this bully for a kid. Kudos to your bro, too. Smart guy he is!!