I have been lurking on your boards reading your posts and advice to each other and I am very interested in what your opinions for my situation would be.
My DH and I recently got into a spat over Christmas in regards to his children not doing their chores that he assigned to them. They will, on most occasions, put on a show of cleaning a room they are assigned to clean up, but in truth only straighten up, they do not actually clean. Two days before Christmas, I was appalled when I found a cockroach in my house. I have never in my life had bugs and seeing it grossed me out and made me feel as if I were a bad house keeper, that "I" was dirty. The bug was in my SDs room, apparently she has been stashing candy from Holiday parties in there, and the bugs found it.
DH works full time. I work full time. We as a couple expect his 4 teenagers to help out around the house. I went through the rooms the (s)kids are responsible for and showed him how they were not properly cleaned. He told me to handle the situation as I saw fit. I hired an exterminator. Bug problem resolved. I then cancelled the (s)kids allowance, and used it to hire a maid to come in once a week to deep clean. The (s)kids are still responsible for their chores on a daily basis, the maid comes in to ensure the place is actually clean, not just topically clean.
The (s)kids are in an uproar because they are expected to work for free (welcome to my world in this house) and feel that if we have a maid that they don't need to clean, that it is her job. My DH is wavering. He understands why I did it but his kids being upset is wearing on him. My side is if I can not trust that you are thoroughly cleaning the room you are assigned to, why would I pay you for a job only partially done? I would rather pay that money to someone who will get things clean, then I don't have to worry about bugs and the added expense of an exterminator.
Am I being unreasonable? Unfair?