Tears of anger or laughter?
SD8 hasn't been doing her homework at her mom's house, and her grades are suffering. DH had a 5 min conversation with SD about the importance of doing homework, that it is HER responsibility (no matter which house she is at) to make sure it gets done, and showed her how it is impacting her grade. He explained that he doesn't mind bad grades as long as you are trying your best, but not doing homework is not trying. He made a comment that he would need to think about the possibility of consequences if this continued. Conversation ends, we go on to have a very enjoyable evening.
Then SD goes home to her mom's house. Cue the shit storm. DH is assaulted by a series hate texts. Apparently a 5 minute conversation has been transformed into berating and threatening his daughter, making her cry, destroying her self confidence, and not being able to see what a wonderful child he has. He now is acting like his own deadbeat father, alienating his child, and will never have a good relationship with her if he can't accept the "help and advice" from BM that she is trying to offer.
I love my DH and his ability to laugh it all off. I on the other hand have the temper of a raging bull and wanted to chuck his phone out the window. Fortunately DH challenged me to a game of basketball instead (on our son's kiddie toddler hoop set). Our game started with me screaming and throwing the mini basketballs as hard as I could, but apparently DH seems to think its cute when I'm mad and can't help but laugh, which makes me laugh too. The game soon turned into a laughing tickle war trying to block each other's shots.
Moral of the story?
BM is crazy and tries to manipulate any situation into DH being a bad father. My DH has the patience of a saint and I love him dearly. I probably need to take a chill pill and not let BM get to me so much, but at least I have my DH to calm me down. I am a little concerned about SD going home and "crying" to her mom, but overall she's a good kid. DH plans to talk to her about it all again. I have no idea what he's planning to say. Guess we'll see...