Texting with the teenager - or SM as the enforcer
It turns out that SD17 is failing two classes.
We were aware of one, and weren't too bothered by it - she is getting tutoring, she was just failing tests, or so we thought. DH got an email yesterday notifying him that SD17 was missing assignments. She's missing SIX assignments in the other class, but this is also the scatterbrained teacher who has failed to mark her present three times this semester, (the classes on either side marked her as present, and I don't think she has ever ditched, so yeah, scatterbrained teacher) so who knows if she did the work or not.
We've been pretty accepting of poor grades as long as she's putting in honest effort, but missing assignments are another thing. DH has a tendency to get frustrated and say nasty things that are uncalled for, so I took over. I told her that she was to talk to her teachers today and get a note that all the admin stuff was fixed.
This morning, I realized I had forgotten to notify her of the consequences, so I texted her a reminder. I wasn't mean about it, and told her that it was up to her to fix the problem, love you and you're going to kick this situation's ass.
I got back something snotty about how if we gave her another day (her school has an odd and even day schedule) it would be more convenient.
I told her tough noogies, do it today.
I got back an "explanation" that stated she couldn't do anything before break anyway, and if she did this and this after break, she'd pull her grades up to a 68 and a 70. (Like those are grades to be proud of, but whatever)
At that point, I told her that she would do as told or face the consequences, her choice. I wasn't going to argue, and since she had let it come to my attention, we were going to fix it my way.
Am I wrong in thinking that she is admitting she didn't do the work?
If she blows us off, I've got some pretty good consequences, staying with nailing her ass to a chair to redo the missed assignments, and ending with the loss of orchestra and her cello lessons so she doesn't have to take the cello on the bus. (her excuse when we try to take her car away) Orchestra isn't required for graduation, but PNW History is.
Unfortunately, DH and I don't really have a moral high ground to stand on. DH failed to graduate because he blew off spring semester of his senior year. It's why he's in the Army now instead of the Marines. I never did any homework in high school, but I tested well enough to pull my grades up enough to graduate. But dammit, she's supposed to be smarter than us!