Advice please (Little Darling chronicles)
Since last Tuesdays blowup, things have been calm (walking on eggshells) and LD SD14 has been her "sweet" self and talking to me (superficially, but no shunning which is good). I took the advice and took myself out to the beach and out to live music and friends. Safely. Dh and LD went fishing. Bonded.
And yesterday she went to her mothers so I relaxed well once she was gone.
Now to this morning. I wanted to "tie up some loose ends" and mentioned Little Darling was failing orchestra because she is not doing the recordings (missing 10 out of 12) and that I had previously made a deal with her that she would ace her other classes and I would turn the other way about orchestra, but told DH about this previously to cover myself, and brought it up again, to cover myself.
Then DH mentioned "Ive been asking her to do her assignments and she said she is doing them, so Im working with her on that. You give me information on assignments and I tell her".
I told him "well Im not giving you information about assignments anymore, Im out of it!"
"I want her to fail". Friends, this popped out before I could stop it. No filters! DH was furious. Spitting mad. I backtracked "just kidding".
But I wasnt.
So, after I just mentiond I wanted her to have repercussions to her actions, after her lying about me, I didnt REALLY want her to fail, he calmed a bit.
SO, my advice:
I went onto parent portal to see if she was actually doing what she said. Folks, missing 23 assignments as of today. And the teachers are letting them redo low-scoring items, and there are 6 redos she had agreed with me to redo. Assignments where she got below a 3 out of 5.
Im so ready to text him this. Supposely Toxic Troll BM was going to "take over her school work" because I was "damaging their child", but now hes telling me he is.
I so want to text "yeah, right, your little darling is missing xyz, but Im out of it and you will incite the wrath of TT if you try to parent again, so GOOD LUCK WITH THAT."
Im so mad. DH doesnt want to listen "dont talk to me about Little Darling and her school". I so want to throw these missing assignments in his face. Semester #1 is going to haunt us.
Oh, and she is still logging 3-4 daily phone calls with Kansas City (KC), with constant texts throughout the day, even during classtime.
Do I get my last little dig in there? Or leave it completely alone. I crave vindication.