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**UPDATED**Venting.

MissK03's picture

Well.. SO and I had a nice two days just us in FL. We got there at midnight Sunday and left yesterday afternoon. We went to a park with SD and her friend (SD stayed with her friend for a week) on Wednesday and it was hell haha.   We are just done with amusement parks. I do enjoy roller coasters but, its just too much.. especially in the summer. How people with small kids do it I have no idea haha. 

Anyways, SS17s grad party is tomorrow. I had SS17 do some very basic shopping on Wednesday because I didn't want to have to get everything for the party when we came home yesterday or today. 

It was mainly some veggies, cheese, and a few other things that he FaceTimed me about.. I basically wanted him to contribuate something to his party.. save this thought for a later.

If you guys are curious.. 6 cucumbers were on my list... do you know SS17 and his GF (she went shopping with him) I guess don't know what a regular cucumber is... the spent $17 on 6 English cucumbers... organic too... maybe I'm just getting old at 36 and it IS a cucumber but... really... you guys couldn't get regular cucumbers... 2 cans of peas and carrots.. they bought 2 cans of peas and 2 cans of carrots. Ok I get that one can be a mistake... A bag of celery.. I got organic celery hearts... close enough.. just $2 more... I returned the English cucumbers and cans yesterday.

So if you think it's just your skids.. it's not. 

Anyways.. I started my day by cleaning the downstairs, SO went to my aunts to pick up table and chairs . Then SO and I went shopping for bulk stuff today. SS17 helped us take stuff out of the car for that.. it wasn't much. Then we were running back out to the liquor store.

While we were out SS17 left with his friends. We saw on the cameras. Didn't tell SO where he was going, didn't ask if he can help with anything just left.. that was around 1230/1. It's 6pm now and still not back..

I said to SO it's rude. Not even to offer. SO goes ... "I didn't ask him to stick around." YOU SHOULD NOT HAVE TOO FOR FFS!!!!! This party is running us close to $700. 50/60 people. SS17 knows how many people.. I just can't. I said he saw a sink full of dishes.. could have done those.. I told SO he does too much he needs to stop. Give them something!! 

I found myself frustrated all over again. We really had a nice time and the second we got home you could just feel the tension. 

Our 21 almost 22 year old neighbor stayed her to look after the dogs and stuff. 

SS19 was complaining about her when he picked us up at the airport.. it's funny because they were friendly. She's like an older sister to SD. 

I said to SO wow sounds like girl across the street spent 3 days cleaning up after SS19 and now they don't seem to like each other... Hmmmm... he didn't say anything. She's a great kid and not bitchy or rude (just graduated from college and is going to be a pre k teacher) so I know everything she said is justified. 

I REALLY need SO to step it up and do something about how you've been going about things.. our day to day. It needs to change. He needs to put more pressure on SS19 to start saving to move out. And it's not just me that says it.. it's SD and SS17. We are all over it. SS17 needs some "chores" too. He just does what he wants too. He's graduated from high school and going to tech school.. he can do SOMETHING.

I said to SO we have no one leaving the house. SS19 works full time, SS17 going to tech school, SD15 clearly still in high school. No one is going anywhere. We can't do everything. 

**UPDATE**

THIS IS A GOOD ONE!! SO and I get up... where's SS17?!! AT WORK AND BE TOLD ALL HIS FRIENDS HIS PARTY WAS SUNDAY!!!

OMFG! So he left work.. big blow out because SO blamed him having his phone in his hand 24/7. I lost it because I'm so fucking tired and spending money and time on shit. I found the text FROM MAY!! From when we planned his party, had multiple convos about it... like you have to be fucking kidding me.

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Shieldmaiden's picture

Omfg that kid!  He can't even show up to his own party? What a loser. Why is DH bending over backwards to please this kid? Unfortunately, this all sounds very similar to my skids. You have to specifically say things to them and confirm that they heard you, in order for them to be held accountable for anything. Usually they are on their phone and they ignore you, and pretend they didn't hear you later, when you ask why they didn't get up on time, do the dishes, etc. I think these skids are going to find out how hard life is when they try this crap at work, and get fired. 

Ispofacto's picture

Stupidly thinking the party was Sunday may partially explain his lack of urgency. 

 

ndc's picture

OMG, that is almost unbelievable. How many of your 50/60 people think it's tomorrow?

MissK03's picture

So half the "attendees" are SO's family and friends. There are a bunch of them.. (in SOs family alone) 4 kids, 12 grandkids with SOs kids being the youngest so the SOs of his nieces and nephews etc. 

SS17 got 20 of the 25/30 of his group to show up and they are all still here. 

So overall not bad. Was expecting about 10/15 more so not horrible. Lots of food left... we will be good for 3 days.

Still annoyed with the day though.. not going to lie.