Lazy Boye 18 is a Senior this year. his small town school still does a Senior trip. They begin collecting class fees in 7th grade, a little at a time, and really ramp up the fundraising junior and senior year. he also gets paid if he works concession/gate at ball games.

He's already had one fundraiser this year. Pizza discount cards for $15. They had to sell 15 cards. If they didn't sell all 15, they would owe $7.50 for any not paid. Let me tell you, I sold those things quick. Luckily, it was a pizza place everyone in our tri-city area can use. My DH, Loghead, refused to help sell any... We sold all but two, and Lazy Boye knows he will pay the $15 for those two cards...

So he and I spent the last hour going back and forth in texts about the newest fundraiser- Christmas packaged popcorn, at $4 a bag. he has to sell 50! By NEXT Friday! He says he's already talked to everyone he knows, and sold 24. Thank god Auntie K bought 10 bags! But then he tells me he just isn't doing it anymore, cause selling stuff is no fun. "I don't see why I have to sell it..." He tells me I have to do it...

Well, I already hit up all my friends for $15 cards?! I'm not gonna try to sell them shitty popcorn, when I know the local boy scout troupe did that too. I told him I would try, but any of the the remaining 50 bags, he would be responsible for the cost.

OMG. That sent him into a tizzy. TExting about why should he pay it if he already sold some, and I never help him, and I never buy him things.

I feel like shit for caving to it. I did. I grabbed the baited hook. "Um, it's YOUR SENIOR TRIP. I'm paying all the other expenses for the trip, and giving you spending money, and I also pay your grad expenses and anything else related to school. I'm working 2 jobs, your father is working two jobs... I'm paying those $800 in doctor bills your BM was supposed to pay..." blah, blah, blah.

And he just bashed me. It was like I asked for it, but he set me up. Ugh, I hate when I let him get to me. When I realized he was baiting me, I thanked him for the hard work he has done with fundraisers so far and it will be awesome to be rewarded with a great trip. I told him I was done with the conversation. I've refused to read the last three texts he has sent...

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But come on, I'm not asking him to do anything different than his siblings did. They didn't even try to fundraise, so they had tons of extra expenses. So that's three Senior trips I have helped fund. Did I take the train to Chicago, did I hang out on the beach and swim with dolphins?!?! Hell no.

And the whole time I'm thinking, ask your BM. Loca never pays a damn dime! Yup. That's right. So far, I've helped pay for 2 senior trips, but who did the skids bring back souvenirs for? Loca.

Whatever, whatever, whatever. I am the bigger person, I am the bigger person.

I'm just pissed he baited me and I fell for it...

And he didn't even fucking thank me. He never does.

Does that make me a doormat, or the bigger person?