I hope you aren't telling your DH to stop receiving text from his son due solely to the belief you think it's not him. You don't know for certain it is not SS and Dad won't take well to being told his son can't tell him son loves and misses Dad.

Because really, so what if it is BM? Right, it's sad and pathetic , but at least she's not texting and saying it as herself.

It doesn't take much to spell love and miss you? The kid is going into HS as a freshman.

I do get my SIL pretend to be my ODD, but he gives himself away each time he does so. I just ignore him when he does or very casually respond in a 'meh' manner. Your DH can't be doing the 'meh' thing with his son.

I suppose if you're really annoyed and curious , you could say something to SS about how nice it was him to text Dad so often this week and see if he scratches his head as in 'what are you talking about'. LOL. But then DH and SS will both know you snoop in DH's phone.

I probably wouldn't look at his texts anymore so as not to get worked up over something that may not be the case.

I don't get it. If she is pretending to be SS and DH says, "I love you, too," or whatever, he's not telling BM that he loves her, he is telling SS (because that's who he thinks he's texting). What does she get out of it?

Really, really pathetic. And weird.

OMG Our BM has also text claiming it was from SS. However, the texts were nasty mean vile filled comments telling him what a terrible father he is and how much he (BM) hates me. How I never do anything for them like shop for them or buy them things.

I too knew right away it was BM because of the spelling. MSS couldn't spell his way out of a wet paper bag. All the texts which are vile and nasty have every word spelled correctly and proper grammar. Yea BM....We are really stupid enough to fall for that.

BM has absolutely text from SS's phone in the past, pretending to be SS, but only when she had him somewhere she knew she shouldn't have. It was obvious because she would correctly spell words that he routinely spelled wrong at the time. Or they would be short and rude.

BUT...... I don't get why you would think this was BM. Kids love and miss their dads. I don't get how she would benefit from that? Are you saying that she is reading them, pretending in her mind that they are actually to her? Because that is really sad and twisted.

How old is SS?

Yeah, this is creepy behavior.

I had my suspicions back in the day, when skid was around 6 or 7, had just obtained her own iPhone from BM, and would text DH, telling him how sad she was that she wasn't allowed to sleep in our bed during her visitations. I was the big bad meanie, taking her daddy away from her. Um, no I wasn't. I told DH he was more than welcome to continue cosleeping with his precious baby - in her bed - to keep her and BM happy. Because 1) There was NO WAY I was going to have someone else's child in MY bed, and 2) Skid still occasionally had accidents at night.

The back and forth texts became way too elaborate regarding the boundaries we had put in place to come from the mind of a 1st grader.