I wanted to yell at dhs friend!!
Dh worked pretty much the whole weekend.
On monday one of his friends invited us(well him) over. We brought steaks(thank god we brought our own steaks!) It was not an actual cookout, and after the fact i realized he was looking for a "guy" night. His girlfriend could not come over, he was home with the kids, and was inviting just my husband over. My husband is not that guy. When you invite "him" your inviting all of us, unless you tell him different. Lol
Anyway- they go out and cook steaks. Im chatting with his son. His son is asking about our toddler. He was trying to find her a toy, but he lost interest pretty fast, toddlers cant play what he wanted to play. He says he is going to get her a toy and does not come back. Whatever.
Well they come back in. We eat, because his friend has already eaten. He would not even try the steak, which is weird to me, i could be stuffed and id atleast taste someones steak, mmmm meat! I love steaks and meat. As far as i know he eats meats, not on any weird diet. As we are eating he starts going on more about his girlfriend-that its serious, he has a ring for her- they have not been together for a year yet!(i think he said 4months) They both have kids. She has a 5year old daughter, he has two boys, 5th and 2nd grade.
Why i wanted to yell at him is he is talking about this womans daughter. He is going on about the lil girl is bratty, wont listen, whiny, and his boys are fully aware how he feels! As the 2nd grader was in the convo. The 2nd grader agrees with dad, which makes dad complain more. Then he starts in on how he raised his boys to be, omg i wanted to yell at him. Your boys are not perfect. You are letting a 2nd grader be apart of adult convo!! Helloooo...
Another friend arrives which throws off the convo. But man i was very irritated by that. Then later we are outside and the 2nd grader comes out with a stack of oreos and milk. He comes over by his dad and does a really loud duck FART. Dad response "thats my boy" ughhhhh. Are you kidding me. Your about to move in with two ladies, and not even a "hey, we have company, go use the bathroom." Or "ladies present" i mean what?! Of course i notice this more after his rant of the girlfriends daughter!
The other son disappeared on video games, the only time i saw him was when he snuck downstairs to grab snacks.
Omg - i could go on and now i feel jaded. Dh and him were talking about getting together again, with him and his girl. (Not sure i want to hangout again, i feel ill say something lol)
I did not tell dh any of this because i know he would not see it. Dh did talk about him getting married so soon, im glad we agree on that! Very fast, with kids involved, just seems fast.
Just weird being an outside party. They have no clue about whats about to happen!! Lol
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Also the other friend that
Also the other friend that showed up- he tried the steak! He saw those bad boys, even though he already ate, he dived in. Lol.
I dont know why the "not eating steak" bothered me, but it did!
Oh and this is dhs childhood friend. They have been reconnecting. Thats why i dont know him very well.
It's okay, the not eating
It's okay, the not eating steak part bothered me too ;)I could even get past the weird proposal plan after only 4 months and his uncouth kids. The steak was mind blowing. Who doesn't LOVE steak?
I KNOW!! I cannot wrap my
I KNOW!! I cannot wrap my head around it!!
I really wanted to call him out, but not knowing him, and him not knowing me, i just kept my mouth shut. But my brain had all these questions/blunt statements that it wanted to fire at him about not eating the steak!!
I don't think I'd eat the
I don't think I'd eat the steak either. I'm picky about how my steak is cooked. Plus if I already ate, I'd let you guys eat since you hadn't. I'd feel rude eating someone's meal, before they had their fill, when I already ate. Were you guys expecting it to be a cookout? If I'm being honest, I find it bold to cook food at someone else's house when it's not a cookout. I wouldn't cook at someone's house period, unless it was planned out in advance & the host/hostess was going to be eating as well. I'd cook at home or quick stop for something before arriving.
That aside, yeah it is fast. It's his life though, he has to live with his decisions. I'd talk about it with my DH, but that's it. I wouldn't let my opinions go any further than my DH. As far as him talking about his future SD, maybe he needed to vent with friends. I completely agree about not talking about his SD in a negative way around his kids, they shouldn't be involved in that at all. I wouldn't say anything to his gf though, I'd keep my nose out of it. The farting thing, would've annoyed me. Maybe the kids new SM will put a stop to it, lol. Maybe the gf will say no!
YES he invited us over to
YES he invited us over to COOKOUT. Thats why i thought it was weird he had already eaten. Rude if you ask me. And nothing out, no chips in a bowl nothing.
Yes he may have wanted to vent with friends, but this is the 2nd time i have been around him. I have never met her, dh just recently found out he was dating someone seriously. He could have vented about it another time just him and dh.
He is just rubbing me the wrong way. Not sure im wanting-willing to hangout again. I am curious to meet his woman, but im not going to push to make it happen.
I misunderstood. It's a
I misunderstood. It's a cookout, at his place, but he had nothing to cook & ate already? Yeah that's really rude. I understand a lot of men don't cook, but he could've stopped for potatoes to wrap in foil for the grill, pre made macaroni salad, heck just one of those bagged salads, anything. That is so strange. You don't invite people over for a cookout & serve nothing, expecting them to cook their own meal. So strange!
If you're not into him, if something seems off, pull back from hanging out with him. I'd simultaneously pull back, while waiting to see what conclusions my DH makes about the guy. If my DH liked the guy, I'd give him another try. I don't like that he was a grown man talking negatively about a kid (SD), to another kid (his son). That's a set up for his kid to dislike her.
Haha. Im afraid if i meet her
Haha. Im afraid if i meet her i will tell her to run!! Lol
I dont think she would be happy to find out the first thing i know about her is she has a bratty daughter, and he thinks he "parents" better than her.
Man 4hrs late! Not sure i could hold in the bitchyness!
Lol, i think thats why im
Lol, i think thats why im kind of curious to meet her, see how they act together.
Omg you just made me laugh
Omg you just made me laugh out loud!!
I could also make a huge point of playing with her daughter, then "i dont know what he is talking about, she is NOT bratty at all."
Snort laugh...