Okay, I need a little advise here. We have been having some trouble with SD6 in school again. We are getting notes from her teacher on about a weekly basis, telling us that SD is playing around, being silly and not doing her work.
So yesterday, since I just had back surgery on monday SO has some vacation time, so I can rest. He goes and gets her from school and she brings home a note from her teacher, same ol' same ol'. Playing around, wouldn't get started and so on. I was up and around for a bit of her homework, and I knew SO had told her no t.v for the day. I also heard him tell her at the table, that once they were done she was supposed to go "play in her room". I heard that and assumed that meant that she was to STAY in her room.
Anyways she went to her room, I layed down on the couch and started to doze off, I swear every 15 minutes or so SD came out of her room for SOMETHING. Well needless to say that made rest for me impossible, and I was very confused as to why SO wasn't sending her back to her room. I snapped at her a few times, for slurping her juice out of a spoon, and coming in and interupting me talking to SO. He didn't say anything at that point. She came out for like the 50th time, and after she went back I FINALLY turned to SO and desperatly asked:
Kay:"WHY DOES SHE KEEP COMING OUT OF HER ROOM?!?!"
SO: I didn't "ground" her to her room.
Kay: uhh, didn't you tell her to go play in her room?
SO: Yes, I thought you needed some rest.
Kay: I DO! So again why does she keep coming out of her room?
SO: she isn't grounded to her room, I just told her to play in her room.
Kay: So I guess that still means come out whenever you fucking want huh?
Yes I was angry, I apologized to SO about the way that I handled it.
My point here is, what should we do about a kid that keeps getting into trouble over and over and over again in school?