For those that are bio parents too:
Does your husband/wife ever say something like: "I wouldn't have been that nice" or "You are setting a dangerous precedence"
For example, 2x last night he really pissed me off (maybe I am PMSing with my non-uterus self)
Me: BS16, please take the dogs outside.
5 Mins later
Me: BS, dogs can't wait. Now please.
DH: I wouldn't have been that nice
BS taking DD to a school soccar game and then knowing he is picking her up for me later and ran to the store for me earlier
Me: Grab my card out of my wallet and put gas in your car
DH: Doesn't he have a job?
Me: Yes, but he is running errands for me and making my life easier, so he can get 1/2 tank of gas on me.
DH: You shouldn't do that, it's a dangersous precedent.
I just rolled my eyes but all I could think was- Look buddy, My kids are good. They are kind and thoughtful and helping me out. MAYBE my way of parenting is ok. They aren't in trouble and they haven't rejected us from their lives like your kid did. I'm not asking anything from you and I demand that they treat you with respect, they are honor roll kids- what more do you want from them?
SS22 lived with MIL while he was in HS. SS17 is basically out of our lives. MAYBE I am doing ok as a mom!
Sorry... Not trying to be a GUBM or anything but I think that my kids are pretty decent.