Kidnapping?
BM2 told DH that she was fine if DH picked up SS after school today- vebally after we did a police welfare check on him a couple of days ago. It had been 2 weeks since SS responded to him and BM wouldn't respond either.
BM will not confirm what she said writting- via text or email.
What are the chances that this is a set up because all we actually have in writting is a "no, you can't see him" from a month ago.
DH wrote out very specifically the plan, what time he was bringing SS home and to what address (her boyfriends- she won't admit that that is where she actually lives). BM won't respond even though there are like 4 follow on texts asking for a response and aceptance of the plan.
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I'd be weary... I want your
I'd be weary... I want your DH to get time with SS, but that makes me nervous and I really dont' want you to be spending even more to bail your DH from jail...
And I am not there are all!
And I am not there are all! It would have to be his mother or sister and to have the job he does for the military--- even thrown out kidnapping charges would end his career.
Yeah I understand that... My
Yeah I understand that... My BIL was denied a job with the NSA because he went to Korea in the past 10 years... I can only imagine what thrown out charges could do for a security clearance. Maybe show up, secretly film, if she shows then he asks politely if she saw the messages and is civil about it?
This is assuming SS will even
This is assuming SS will even know he is there to pick him up.
Nothing in writing, no current court paperwork, not even on the website?
I would say not to bother, she knows how to play this game and play it well.
You would have to go back and
You would have to go back and read the blogs but this BM could teach lessons in how to screw an exH over.
She filed for divorce without serving DH while he was out to sea- that decree was thrown out due to the soliders and sailors act
Then she refused to agree to anything in court for the next 2 years. The judge just keep allowing more time.
Then she agreed to some select terms- no custody agreement to finalize the divorce- only spring break visitation since that was coming up shortly. This was partially my fault. We needed to get married because DH was due for orders. They agreed to revisit custody in 9 months.
When they came back they twisted it around so that the only visitation that was allowed to be discussed in court was summer. She then convinced the judge that rec baseball was more important than SS visiting dad. So DH gets one week at spring break and 3.5 weeks in the summer for a total of 34 days a year. She did tell the judge that she would never ever prevent DH from seeing SS when DH came to SS state and tried to say that the only visitation that should be had should be with DH going there. He should just use all his travel/leave time visiting SS. No real vacations or savings for us. Just visit SS in SS state. -- NOPE.
They used that he is in the military against him, but have no problem with the alimony or child support that him being in provides. It was all the biggest bunch of BS ever written.
Ugh. I say just go to school
Ugh. I say just go to school and touch base with the kid, but don't take him if you don't have any confirmation from BM that it's OK (by the way, most phones can record phone calls too - check if you are in a two-party or one-party state first, though).
This is giving me flashbacks to the set-ups BM would make for DH. If you DON'T show up, she will tell SS that DH doesn't love him, and if you DO show up, SS will be gone, or she will sic the police on you if you take him. But show up anyway. If SS is gone from school already, take a selfie in front of the school and let him know you are sorry you missed him.
DH went to lunch with him and
DH went to lunch with him and is going back after football practice (keep in mind it is an hour from MIL's house to SS's town). There is literally nothing to do for almost 5 hours so DH is driving back and forth. - No mall, no grocery store, no main street shops, no nothing. It is almost a ghost town that used to be a farming community back in the 50's.
How does SS usually get home
How does SS usually get home from school? Walk, bus, get picked up by BM? That could influence what your H does.
He walks
He walks
He must get a lawer
and go back to court. But if it’s five hours of driving to get SS. How much can he see him. Is DH going to spend 10 of driving to spend 48 hours with SS over the weekend ?? 10 of driving 20 hours of sleep So he will have him 18 hours . Maybe you can go for 3 day weekends, holidays, 1/2 holidays ???? WHY are you like 120 miles away from SS ?
We are 1300 miles from SS, BM
We are 1300 miles from SS, BM moved him away and established residency while DH was deployed.
DH is staying with MIL this week in hopes of seeing SS. MIL is an hour each way from SS town.
We try and go there at least once a ywar but we have 3 other kids. We also want actual vacations and fun trips with the kids. Not hanging in the middle of nowhere midwest. We are doing the best we can without sacrificing our lives fir 1 kid when we do have 3 others that deserve a full life and actually want to be in our lives.