Come to the wedding or not?
What would you do? My family don’t like my husband and he doesn’t like them. There are two upcoming events where we have SD and DH said that they are both coming, but if I don’t want them to come they won’t. I will add, other than my mom who doesn speak to DH, the rest of my family are nice and welcoming to him....
The first is celebrating Christmas at my sister’s on the 22nd, there will be a number of ppl there. My family will buy SD a gift, but last time she came she complained that my son got more (my family barely know SD as DH has refused to attend any of my family Events since Easter)
the second is my brother is getting married NYE, the two little kids are in the wedding party and it is out of town for 2 nights. We went to a family party of DH’s this past weekend and SD was dressed like she was a 20yo at a club (she is 11) I tried buying her dress Shoes and she didn’t like the two choices I bought her and ended up wearing ratty old running shoes... she looked ridiculous... and I didn’t care because it was his family.. but I would be so embarrassed if she dressed this way at my brother’s wedding. Selfishly, I want DH there to help with the baby.... but the other part of me feels like telling them not to come, and he has said he won’t be upset by this and is okay not coming to either event. I want him there, but am stressed that SD will be there too...they will most likely be attached at the hip anyways.