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We are getting divorced .....

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So I havent posted in a bit, many here have encouraged me to leave my husband.... well after my brother’s wedding and the way the holidays went I knew my life would continue to be hell with my emotionally abusive narcissistic husband and I finally had the courage to end it.... we have been separated for a week now, living under the same roof... How evil he really is, has become clear.... he doesn’t work and is demanding I pay for an apartment for him once we sell the house...

Dreading..... but I pushed for this

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So I have been on DH to start bringing in more money and to have more of a steady income then his business is providing (I am the breadwinner and he is home with the baby during the day) we have debt we need to clear.... So guess what? He has picked up a job which is flexibile and allows him to work around my Schedule.... I am off work over the holidays... so he will be working a lot.... guess what that means? DH has SD half the holidays, so I will have her alone with my two a lot..... of course I won’t say anything, because we need the money....

Come to the wedding or not?

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What would you do? My family don’t like my husband and he doesn’t like them.  There are two upcoming events where we have SD and DH said that they are both coming, but if I don’t want them to come they won’t.  I will add, other than my mom who doesn speak to DH, the rest of my family are nice and welcoming to him....

Christmas Cards

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who is included on your family Christmas card? I just picked ours up and they just include a picture of the kids, SD, my son and the baby.  SD has been extra rude and disrespectful to me the last 2 weeks....I look at the card and realize it will always include this child who wishes I wasn’t around.  I will never be able to make a card to send my family (who barely know SD BTW) that only has my two bio kids.

 

jusy curious what other’s do?

Always ignored

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so after our recent fight, DH is back to Mr. Perfecf and BM said we can get SD early on December 30th for my brother’s rehearsal dinner.  We did Christmas pics Friday night and yesterday DH drove SD to a birthday party and picked up his mom, DH the two littles, MIL and I went to a parade...and then last night DH drove me to my friends and picked me up after so I could have a few drinks... he also cooked breakfast and lunch AND did the dishes.... when he wants to be great he is... it’s when he is being an ass I have such a hard time...

Upcoming holidays

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I haven’t posted in a bit as we haven’t spent a lot of time with SD, it’s back to every other weekend and every other Monday.  I have emotionally disengaged for the most part, meaning I still do things for SD, but I don’t respond or try not to get hurt when she says or does something hurtful to me. She has Also been more helpful when she is here, which is nice so I don’t feel like the chef and the maid.  However, with the holidays coming and school break she will be here more.

We finally met

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So after being with DH for over 3 years, I finally met his adult 24yo Daughter.... they do not have a relationship and she came to a family party... she met our baby (her half sister) and saw her other sister (my SD) who she does have a relationship with.... it was a bit awkward...but she was a very nice girl and it was nice to finally meet her... DH has only seen her a few times this past year...I have no idea if she will become more involved in our lives or not...She kind of feels like a stranger to DH and he did not raise her at all, so it’s an interesting situation...

Has to prove me wrong....

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The last couple of visits with SD have overall went okay... she is at the age where she wants to play on her phone or watch her own shows.... the mini wife stuff has completely subsided as well....her and my son still fight a lot, he annoys her and she is really mean.... but we don’t see her a whole lot and I have doing more cards things with the two littles, while she has been with DH...

however, when I do try to talk with her and connect with her (something our counsellor suggested)she seems to need to find a way to undermine me and prove me wrong...

No idea what she is in for

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a good friend got engaged last night.... she is divorced with one 6yo boy (has majority custody... but has a good relationship with her cheating ex and he is a good dad)  she met her fiancé 6 months ago.... he has 50/50 of his 3 kids... aged 5-16....the ex wife is apparently a nightmare...

her fiancé is really great.... but OMG! When she said she was engaged I was like ahh! She has no idea what she is in for! She is such an amazing woman who has had a lot of crap happen in her life... I hope things workout okay for her!!

 

 

Could my 5yo really be doing this?

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So I have posted how my 11yo SD was threatening to not come over anymore because she thinks my 5yo son is favoured by my DH (his step dad). She has said that my son gives her nasty looks while he calls DH “daddy” and it is upsetting her... well she has taken this anger out on my son and is being really mean to him... we are spending the weekend at MIL’s and last night my son wouldn’t even go downstairs with her abyntlr because she was being mean...  so last night after the baby was sleeping we were lying on the pullout couch, DH, my son and me....

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