taking my frustration out on Cadbury Mini-Eggs-OT
My brother just called me in a panic because he is getting released from the hospital TODAY....and grandma/grandpa went out of town yesterday morning and aren't sure they left him a house key. (how does he not have a house key living there as long as he has?)
So...I am now waiting for him to call me back..
.I have to beg my boss to let me leave work early to go and get him, and he's probably going to be staying with us until the grandparent's get back.
He wants me to drive to the grandparent's house to see if the key is there, he has NONE of his medications with him since the hospital gives him everything he needs. They won't give him any extra when he leaves. He needs enzyme pills every time he eats or he only retains about 30% of anything he eats. Gdammit. I don't have the gas to drive downtown to the hospital, then gparents house, if there is no key he has to come to our house....again with extra meals and crap.
I will figure something out because he is my brother. But it sucks.
I have eaten an entire 10oz bag of cadbury mini-eggs in three hours.
I feel shame. Sort of.
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Sorry, my original comment
Sorry, my original comment didn't fit. It seems your brother was ill because of mold in someone's basement? Still, he is an adult and could find his own way home, couldn't he? You are at work, can't afford to take time off or the gas it would take to drive him around or the food it would take to feed him. This isn't your problem to solve, hun.
grandma isn't positive she
grandma isn't positive she left him a key to get into the house, he also doesn't have a check card so he can't use "uber". He said last time he took a taxi back it was $47. Plus... If he somehow gets to the house and can't get in because there is no key, he has nowhere to go. My/our dad is over 45 minutes away and not answering his phone. He doesn't have anybody else sadly.
So he's an adult with no
So he's an adult with no driving license, no bank card, no money and no way to solve this on his own. Dad isn't answering his phone to his adult son, whom has no adult things or adult resources....so it falls on you? You ever think that maybe Dad isn't answering for a reason?
Hmmmm I think my original comment does fit. It is not your responsibility and it seems you'd be enabling a man-child. And all of us, as SM's on this website, know what happens when you keep enabling kids. No matter what age they are.
I still stand on this is not your problem to solve. Let baby brother grow up and figure things out on his own.
Mmmmm... Cadbury Easter Creme
Mmmmm... Cadbury Easter Creme Eggs. I have no judgment concerning you eating a whole bag; in fact, I'd probably do it myself right now!
Good luck with everything. Make sure you establish boundaries with your brother so he knows that staying with you is only temporary.
Ugh, sorry for your stress.
Ugh, sorry for your stress.
I'm with Cooooookies - this isn't your problem to solve. Isn't there a way your brother can find his own ride - a taxi or Uber? He can be chauffered around on his own dime, look for a key at the grandparents' house, then get to your house - if necessary.
he has no money. And after
he has no money. And after he called my grandparents they specifically told him to call me. We;'re only about 20 minutes away from my grandparent's house, its the drive to the clinic thats a PIA. Damned if I do, damned if I dont.
Grandma and grandpa need to
Grandma and grandpa need to call a locksmith and have their door opened.
You tell your brother to cool his heels where he is until you get off work and you will drive him to grandparent's home. Or better yet.. when you get ahold of the boy's father he can go deliver him. Where did they go anyway? Your brother can cool his heels in any number of wating areas at the hospital. It is NOT an emergency for you to take off work. That will give the grandparents time to figure out how he can get into their house.
I fear this is a ruse to get him living with you.. don't allow that.
I agree with ESMOD.
I agree with ESMOD.
Ok, in your defense, those
Ok, in your defense, those mini eggs are like crack and also like pringles in that once you start you can't stop. So don't beat yourself up over that! Geesh I hope if he stays with you, he doesn't turn into the "guest" that never leaves!!
I don't think the cadburry
I don't think the cadburry eggs is the issue... Those things are yummy! Too rich for me to eat a whole bag though! My stomach can't handle that many. LOL
I get wanting to figure it out, I do, but you can't provide more than you're able either. Just make sure you don't go too far and let your needs and your family's needs fall to the wayside!
The hospital will find him a
The hospital will find him a place to stay until someone can pick him up.
Do not bring him to your home unless you are willing to have him permanently. Once he is in your home the likelihood of him going back to your grandparents home is small.
I might go pick him up AFTER
I might go pick him up AFTER work and drop him off at his FATHER'S house. Seriously.. I would leave a message to that effect on my father's voicemail.. and tell brother to cool his heels until after work. I mean.. you could go to grandma's on the way to see if a key is there.. but if it isn't a trip to dad's where HE can reimburse you for gas money.
Just got in touch with my dad
Just got in touch with my dad, he's over an hour away at a job site. And grandma's isn't on the way to the hospital, it's out of the way unfortunately. I've decided I'm not leaving work early. I only have another hour and a half, he can wait. Traffic might suck, but if he is staying at our house, waiting is the least of his worries. The hospital is only about 20 minutes away from our house, I think that's why grandma had him call us. I hate last minute planning, so I'm not going to stress out about it. I'll get him when I get him, and I will call the grandparent's to find out when the heck they will be back so I'm not making multiple trips. I don't want to drive all the way there and find out there is no key, then drive home, then drive him BACK over there when they are back.
If dad is at a job site.. he
If dad is at a job site.. he should be home "eventually". I might still consider telling him he needs to get home asap. That you will pick up your brother after your work and then you will drive him to his dad's where he can stay until until grandparent's get home (if you think it isn't worth chancing the key being somewhere around grandparent's house). I would go way out of my way to ensure he didn't land on my couch if you know what I mean.
Iamlosingit, you just got an
Iamlosingit, you just got an impromptu therapy session from ESMOD and the others who commented. They helped correct your panicked thought process and talked you down from your default "I have to do for everyone and be a doormat" way of thinking. Consider that - your first impulse was not logical or healthy. But, when you were able to talk it out sensibly, your intelligence and logic kicked in.
I used to be a codependent martyr doormat, too. Life seemed to be sandwiched in between crises, big and small. I was raised around drama, and unconsciously sought it out since it felt normal. I craved calm and peace, all while sabotaging myself by becoming overly involved in other people's drama. I truly thought that self sacrifice was a good and required part of life . It was insane, emotion-based thinking.
You seem like an intelligent, practical, driven woman who could be highly successful with a few tweaks to your thought process. I hope you'll keep posting here, learning, and do some research into codependency.
Milk chocolate or dark
Milk chocolate or dark chocolate? I love those things! I will buy 12 bags and put them in the freezer with the goal of pulling one bag out a month. Never made it past month 2.
It sounds like you have had a stressful day, so the mini eggs are warranted.