Upgraded to evil SM status- and I don't care
As an update to Tuesday's blog, my aunt called me back and asked if my cousin could come over. I had started dinner and said sure and invited aunt over for dinner. I sent SD a text that BM could drop her off because DH was still working. SD got here within 15 minutes. She said BM wanted her home by 9 and not a minute later. I told her DH can deal with that. Aunt texts about then and says that cousin decided to go to the mall with my stepsis instead. Fine, I told SD. She is disappointed, of course, and sulks in her room. A few minutes later, she informs me that BM wants her home NOW since cousin isn't coming. I say fine, tell her to come pick you up because DH wasn't home. SD was gone in 10 minutes.
The next day, Wednesday, I am out shopping with my girlfriend because we have an event on Saturday and were picking out outfits and accessories and went to dinner. SD texts asking if cousin can come over. I reply that, no, she can't and she can come over Friday or Saturday when they can have a sleepover and spend more than a few hours together. I get the "why not" text and I almost lost my cool. I reiterate that I am not home and that I am not available until Friday, ask DH. DH told SD to ask me. "But my uncle (BM's brother) is getting married this weekend and I am busy Friday- Sunday". I tell her that there are no exceptions to be made and she can spend ALL next week with cousin when it's her week with dad. I just get an "ok" text. But when she got her way the day before, it was "thanks, I love dogs!!". Brat.
Tonight I was invited to dinner at another girlfriend's house and plan to be gone most of the evening. I am going to reiterate this to DH and tell him to NOT tell SD to ask me sh!t. As a matter of fact, I want to tell him to never tell her to ask my for sh!t ever again. I'm secretly hoping that this pregnancy and baby makes her go back to bring here minimally, as horrible as that sounds. But I've accepted that nothing I do is good enough and I am prepared to embrace that. I am not SD's mother and never will be. I wanted family photos of the 3 of us before baby arrives, but I honestly couldn't care less anymore. SD didn't bother to ask if *I* had plans when she wanted to visit my cousin. Nope, just what can I do for HER. I'm done. For good.
I honestly want to move a state away where my mom lives. She is more than willing to help with the new baby and I would love for her to be our baby's main caregiver, but I know it is unrealistic to move away from SD and wouldn't be fair to her or DH but a girl can dream. Thankfully DH is a very private person so I won't have to worry about SD knowing about the pregnancy until as late as possible and she won't be involved in any way. No invites to ultrasounds, no helping decorate the nursery, and she will NOT be at the hospital during delivery.