Another reason I hate BM
Wow this new site is something to get used to! I hope everyone is doing well and had a refreshing weekend. I can't wait until Friday! I wanted to post sooner, but the site was being updated, of course.
This past Saturday, I missed a call from BM and assumed it was SD wanting to come over. I text DH (he was at work) and asked if he knew why she called. He didn't and assumed it was SD, too. I call BM back and they want to come pick up SD's rubberbands for her braces since she is having a sleepover with her friend. I guess BM ran out and was too lazy to get more from the dentist during the week.
ANYWAY.. We got SD12 a phone on our plan and have installed a parental setting to monitor whom she is messaging, which apps/ sites she's using, etc. BM thinks SD needs to be 14 to have a phone, but in reality, SD is the only kid in her class without one and now that she's older, DH and I think it's necessary to have direct communication with her. BM refuses to see this and must prefer to have to contact SD's friends and their parents instead.
I ask SD if she is taking her phone to the party and she says that BM said no and will I ask. I asked BM myself and she says something like "I've told SD I do not want her having a phone and I don't agree with you and DH allowing this without us making a 'family decison' so it stays at your house". I say ok and they leave. 1) I find it HILARIOUS that BM is all about making "family decisions" now, 5 years after she refused to do any of that and was open about/ got away with it in court. 2) She doesn't want DH having contact with SD without her knowing and it is all about control. 3) SD is glued to her tablet and laptop 24/7 with BM so why can't she have a phone that is monitored and paid for by DH?
I loathe this woman and just love to see her dig herself into the hole she's creating. DH predicted her controlling behavior would backfire and it is. SD can't stand to be with BM for many other reasons that the cell phone. This is just a cherry on top.