Would you be pissy?
Ok-after 4 months of ss living here and trying to take over my home he finally moved out last Thursday. Great, I thought-i can get my house in order and then relax. Well at some point over the weekend my dh came to me and said he wanted to have his buddy come down on Tuesday and help him clean out and wire the shed. Um, ok. i work so it's not a big deal. Then the next thing he tells me is that he will be camping out in a tent in our back yard Tuesday night because he needs him to help him two day.s Well, ok-I am not fond of overnight guests-but ok i can deal with that.
So in reality what has happened is that not only did his buddy, but also his son, and also his 3 year old grandson come on Tuesday and they are currently at my house still at this time. They removed everything from our shed and it has been sitting on the lawn for the past 4 days. It looks like we live at a junkyard-we live in a gated community and this is sertiously frowned on and I am expecting a letter in the mail citing us for some sort of white trash violation.
The three year old was apparently in the house unattended. Got into my eye shadow-ground it into the carpet and now there is none left. Noone cleaned it up. My hairbrush is missing. When the kid is not being unattended my 10 year old dd has been given the responsibility of watching him. Last night at 4am dh wakes me up and tells me I cant use the bathroom downstairs because "someone" stopped it up and it has to dry out, but that he cleaned it. I lie there and then go to look and realize that he has mopped up stuff with a towel-well maybe 10 towels but didnt bother to start the wash.
Each night, since Tuesday, I have gone to dh and asked him when his pals are leaving, when will he put the stuff back in the shed, blah, blah. Each day he has told me things like-they are leaving tonight, they are leaving in teh morning, or they are leavign tomorrow-same for how long it will take to put things back in the shed.
My dh has not spent more than 5 minutes with me since Monday. (Monday night he worked all night prepping for their arrival and work). I have taken care of the kids all by myself, the house all by myself, and worked full time. In the meantime, there are multiple unfinished projects both in and out of our home that my dh decided not to work on in lieu of wiring this shed so he can have electricity to stay up late out there and work on his hobbies.
This morning he gets in bed at 6am after staying up all night-he hasnt slept in our bed since Monday. I tell him he needs to get up, have his friends leave, and clean up the yard. I cannot take it any longer. He refuses. He does not want "to hurt their feelings" by making them leave. um, ok? But you dont mind that it bothers me? I told him I would call the police and have them vacate my property if he was unwilling to ask them himself. He tells me he will get up in a few minutes and tell them to go. It's now 4:00 and yes, I just called home and they are still there. Furthermore, he told his pals in detail everything I said. IN front of our daughter. I told dh that i would not be staying at the home tonight, but will be charging a hotel to the credit card so I can have some peace and relaxation.
Am I overreacting? I absolutely HATE my house in disarray. My dh NEVER informed that we were going to have houseguests-including a 3 year old boy for 4 days. When I tried to speak to him about it-he continued on a daily basis to misled me about how long they would be staying. In addition, he never told me that we would have the contents of our shed on our lawn for 4 days. When I finally told him I couldnt take it anymore and they needed to go-he yelled at me and told me he wasnt going to tell them to leave as he didnt want to hurt their feelings.