The Benefit of a Doubt Only Goes So Far
I feel a little put out.
This weekend we didn't have the kids, and since BF and I are so stressed about moving we decided to go out for a little drink. We had seen BF's best friend "Ted" earlier and I asked BF if Ted liked me (he's a very quiet person and it's hard to get a read on him, but I know he quietly hated BM). BF slurred out that oh yea, Ted likes you, but BM HATES you. I think he regretted it as soon as he realized what he said. I asked him why he was so sure, and he got real quiet.
If you've ever read any of my blogs you'll know that BM and I have never spoken, and while we haven't exactly been friendly, there has never been anything truly offensive in our interactions. We mostly just ignore one another and stay out of each others' way. In my mind I've always tried to give BM the benefit of a doubt, and I've never taken BF's issues with her as my own.
Anyway, back to this weekend, BF explained that BM had called him last week about his motorcycle. I don't know why, but for the past six months or so BM has been upset about BF's motorcycle because it's still in both their names and it's not paid off yet. They both have suburbans that are still in both their names, but those are both paid off in full and she doesn't seem to take issue with those. She told BF he needed to pull out a $10,000 loan and pay off the bike. He said the banks aren't just giving out $10,000 loans. She said, "Well then have f***ing Helena do it!" It's the first time she's ever said my name to BF. Great. BF repeated that banks aren't just giving out loans and she hung up on him.
I know it's not a huge deal, and she still isn't doing anything horrible to me. I just feel disappointed. I've really held out some hope that BM would just be disinterested in me, and hence not angry. I don't know if she's under the impression that I have a lot of money, or if she was just being spiteful. Whatever the case, it didn't really make me angry when BF told me. I just felt kind of deflated.
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