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Ann Is Just a Booty Call

GhostWhoCooksDinner's picture

I haven't updated on my friend Ann in a while, mainly because I haven't seen her much. She is still on suspension from work (it's been about four months now) and she's telling me now that they've recommended she resign. I still don't know what she did (or didn't do) and quite honestly, I don't want to know. I don't want any part of that mess. But she was told that if she resigns, her record will be sealed. If not, any agency she applies to from here on out will be able to access her records and see the charges. She'll never be able to get a job. Ann is being Ann and refusing to resign "on principle." Oh well. It's her funeral. Myself and our two other mutual friends have pretty much accepted at this point that Ann is a train wreck. We keep waiting for her to crash and burn, but she just keeps speeding down the track.

 

I have no idea how she's living, paying the bills. She gets child support, but it's hardly enough to live on. She's been on three ski trips in the past several weeks. I don't know if her parents are helping her out or what, but I know Hot Tom isn't - he lost his job around the same time Ann got suspended and isn't working either. But he's not my problem.

 

I had a phone conversation with Ann last night, and she's in complete denial that anything is wrong in her life .I can talk till I'm blue in the face and she doesn't want to hear it, so I don't bother. I listen, I try to be supportive, but this chick is absolutely convinced that everything in her life is perfect. You can't tell her maybe she's drinking too much, because she's "not," but... sorry, drinking at 9 am every morning is a problem. You can't tell her her kid is unhappy because he's "totally not, he's just going through a tween moody phase." Anyway, she went on a rant about how she only sees Hot Tom about once a week now. They have sex, she goes home the next morning, and he doesn't return her calls for several days. Until he's ready for another booty call. Ann absoluely can not see that this is what's happening- "Tom's just super busy" or "Tom's got a lot on his plate" or "Tom's having a flare-up of his IBS" or what the hell ever. I told her straight up, "You are a booty call." Nope, no, negative... that is not what's happening. OK. Looks like the shine has worn off. What ever happened to her happy little family with Tom and his hellions?

 

Ann and one of our mutual friends (Sue) went to a college hockey game recently. (Ann's son Chris and Sue's son "Ben" are the same age, and thought they'd have fun together). Well, who decided to tag along but Hot Tom and his hellions, Mary and Luke. Ann warned Chris before they went in, "Don't think about asking for a million snacks because I'm not spending $5 for a hot dog." Then she proceeded to spend $8 on a large beer, which she downed in about 15 minutes. Sue ended up buying a hot dog and soda for Chris, because she felt bad for him and was buying one for Ben as well. The entire game, Ann was making a spectacle of herself, standing up and cheering when no one else was, getting up and dancing to the music, etc. Chris asked her to sit down because she was embarrassing him, and Sue saw him giving her the finger behind her back several times. Why Tom and his kids came was a mystery, because Tom didn't interact with Ann at all, and Mary and Luke didn't even acknowledge Chris or Ben. During halftime (or whatever it is in hockey), Mary stood at the top of the seating area and was throwing Skittles down to her brother, who was trying to catch them in his mouth. No one (hello, Tom?) seemed to notice that they were hitting people with Skittles or basically being a nuisance. I wish some other patron had said something. Anyway, Sue said that's the last time she's ever going anywhere in public with Ann again. It was "pathetic." Chris didn't smile once the entire time, and looked absolutely miserable. I can't blame him.

 

But that's my little Ann update for those following the train wreck.

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hereiam's picture

Wow, that is awful.

Do you think her downward spiral is because of this dysfunctional relationship? Or has there been something else going on?

It's just really sad.

GhostWhoCooksDinner's picture

I think it's a combination of things- a series of crappy relationships, getting suspended from work, conflict with her parents, the drinking...it's creating a perfect storm. And she won't acknowledge there's anything wrong, so no one can help.

Aniki-Moderator's picture

Good grief!! Her rose-colored glasses must be a mile thick. She's a moron in more ways than one.

Even if she did NOT do anything wrong at her job, she's a fool for not taking the out. It seems obvious that she cannot legally prove she did nothing wrong, but will be branded as damaged goods. Idiot.

Isn't there ANYTHING that can be done for poor Chris? Crikey, give me the deets and phone number and I will call DCFS. That poor boy. Prayers for Chris and a virtual Flaming Dragon Crotch Kick for Ann.

Thumper's picture

Sounds like someone is paying her bills for her. It's sad but some people have arrangements like that.

Now I can tell you some females go on line and get paid for photos or facetime. Not saying that is what Ann is doing. Sounds more like Hot Tom or hot dog chris may be helping her out $$$$

 

 

Maxwell09's picture

She’s in denial. And you might not want to know what she did but I sure as heck do! Poor Chris. Her son is the worst part of all of this. I hope he goes to live with his dad ASAP.