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Mary "Broke" Her Grandmother, and Hot Tom Had to Bail on a Romantic Weekend

GhostWhoCooksDinner's picture

I just don't know what more needs to happen to get Ann to see that this situation is exactly what it appears to be- a cluster- and it isn't going to get any better. She came into work this morning crying (again). She and Tom had big plans- a three-day weekend away, just the two of them, in the city, where they would attend a wedding for one of Ann's relatives and spent the rest of the time getting cozy and doing some sightseeing and whatnot. Sitters were in place...then Mary happened.

Tom's mother has been taking care of Mary and Luke during the day, every weekday, while he's at work since school let out in June. Apparently the nanny (the real one, not Ann) has a life during the summer. Grandma had also planned to keep them this weekend. So anyway, yesterday, Mary was so bad that Grandma has decided she's DONE watching her. She'll keep taking Luke, but she can't take another minute of Mary. So Tom had to take today off of work to stay home with Mary, and the weekend trip is off because all bridges have been burned. Grandma won't watch her, Tom's sister won't watch her, and hell, her own BM doesn't want her.

What exactly did Mary do to Grandma? Well, according to Ann, she constantly pokes at Luke until they end up fighting; that's an everyday thing. Mary's screaming and potty mouth are an everyday thing. Mary refusing to do what she's told is an everyday thing. But yesterday, apparently she told her grandmother she wished she were dead, and if she doesn't "drop dead on her own," Mary will do it herself. Grandma called Tom at work sobbing, telling him to come and get his monster of a daughter because she didn't want her in her house anymore.

Later, when Tom was "giving her a talking to," which of course was her only punishment, Mary gave Tom this ice cold smirk, then kind of chuckled and said all proud, "Hehe, I broke Grandma!"

Ann was all upset this morning because the romantic weekend was off. I was like, "Are you KIDDING me?! The weekend is the least of your problems!" This child is a budding sociopath! And I mean that in the truest sense of the word, as a psychiatric label. She has no remorse for anything she does. And she's TEN. I've met this child, and she scares me.

And guess what? She is Tom's FULL TIME. Her family members won't babysit her. Her MOTHER doesn't even want her. The dates and dinners out and weekends away are over.

Part of me feels bad for this child. She's been rejected by her mother. She's been sexually abused. But something in her brain is wired wrong and can't be fixed. She's been in therapy for ages. Guess what? It's not working.

Ann had a job interview that would require her to move two hours away. I told her that if she's offered the job, she needs to go. Take Chris and start fresh. Does she really want her child around that? He might be the next one to be "broken." I just want to scream in her face...

RUN, BITCH!! RUUUUUUUUUUN!!!!!

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GhostWhoCooksDinner's picture

Where did I blame the kid for anything? :?

Reading comprehension is a good thing to learn. How about heading to your local adult education center instead of being a troll? You're a sad, sad case.

Aniki-Moderator's picture

Hold the phone. There is NO blame in that comment. Otherwise, it would read something like "it's Mary's fault her mother doesn't want her...".

I honestly do not understand why you are so focused on that comment and attacking OP. Sheesh.

GhostWhoCooksDinner's picture

Right? Hello...BM's 100 percent to blame there. I NEVER said it was Mary's fault. Never would.

CompletelyPuzzled's picture

"Part of me feels bad for this child. She's been rejected by her mother. She's been sexually abused. But something in her brain is wired wrong and can't be fixed. She's been in therapy for ages. Guess what? It's not working."

That doesn't sound to me like she is blaming her at all. Do you even read people's blogs before you spew venom?

Aniki-Moderator's picture

Holy crap on a cracker!!! How any woman could subject her child to this clusterf*ck is completely beyond me. I wouldn't bring a GOLDFISH around Mary.

If Mary is seeing the same therapist and there has been no progress, she obviously needs a different one. Gads.

SM12's picture

That is SCARY!! The kid actually smirked and was pleased that she "Broke Grandma" It has to be bad when your own grandma is running for the hills to get away from the kid. Oh I hope Ann gets away from this nightmare and protects her son from this horrible situation. The girl is 10 and not even into her Teens, which will only worsen the issues.

GhostWhoCooksDinner's picture

That's what I keep telling her. This kid is going to get FAR worse before she gets better, IF she gets better. Therapy's not working and she has two parents who don't parent. I can't imagine this girl in her teens.

GhostWhoCooksDinner's picture

Hey, another work friend and I even said we'd plan a girls' weekend/housewarming party for her once she's out of that mess.

Maxwell09's picture

Oh my God. I really hope Ann gets her kid and gets out before Psycho Mary lashes out towards Chris and ruins his life with a sexual abuse allegations. Once that little girl figures out just how much power she has and how her words can literally ruin lives, she's going to use it to her advantage to keep people catering to her.

hereiam's picture

This is really is not fun or cute anymore and Ann needs to receive the clues that she's been given. What she thought was Mary's spunk or whatever, is actually a serious problem and to get into a deeper relationship with Tom will not bode well for Ann and her son.

It's time to stop wasting time on this guy and move on. She's not getting any younger, she cannot fix this, and she has her son to think about. Not only is she not getting any younger, but situations like this will age you. And for what? What does she think her return will be out of her investment?

I hope she gets the job and takes it. It will give her an easy out.

GhostWhoCooksDinner's picture

I PRAY that she gets it. It would be a pretty big promotion, so yeah, there's her "out." Ann recently turned 40, and she says she's "invested a lot of time" in this relationship (uhh...six months or so?). But come on, most of us have been there- better to get out six months in than find yourself trapped six years in. I worry that this girl is going to target her next. We're social workers. An abuse allegation could literally destroy her career. Or, what if she targets Chris? No way would I even consider continuing this relationship if it put my own child in even the slightest amount of jeopardy.

She did say something hopeful this afternoon. She said, "Hell, maybe I'll meet someone at the wedding this weekend." Pick a childless one this time, Ann!

Aniki-Moderator's picture

Ghost, I would hope that the possibility of Mary targeting Chris is one of her two biggest worries. The other should be the adverse effect all of this has had on poor Chris. I want to wrap him up in a soft blanket, bake him cookies, hug him, and tell him it will be alright. Sad

Maxwell09's picture

Sweet baby Jesus, I hope God send the newest edition of George Clooney her way sans any offsprings, crazy Exes or mother-in-laws!!

TwelveLongYrs79's picture

Ann should just be concerned with how long the drive is from Home to NewLife. Tire tracks...buhbyeeeeeeee

thinkthrice's picture

Exactly. Although my skids are all PASed out, they have enough venom for their father and I to furnish a slither of black mambas. Needless to say I have security cammed the place. Oldest two are driving age.

onwednesdayswewearpink's picture

Holy cow. Is this kid in therapy?? Fingers crossed for the new job.

GhostWhoCooksDinner's picture

She's been in therapy for a while now. I think it's well past time for a new one!

onwednesdayswewearpink's picture

Maybe your friend needs to have a chat with broken granny and chit chat on how to convince dad that Mary need serious help and he's not helping at all.

GhostWhoCooksDinner's picture

That's an idea. NO ONE is helping this kid. Dad thinks taking her to therapy every other week is all she needs. NO. She needs something a lot more intensive. Both of her parents need parenting classes, big time. I mean, geez, she's ten years old and no one wants her. Her father is probably about reaching his limit.

Stepcreaturesonly's picture

I was on hols then sick for a week. Only just catching up on last month. Soooo excited to be updateded on my fave soapie, er, I mean story. Especially that it's good news and there's hope for Ann and Chris. Yay.

Also, I don't believe in corporal punishment, but pretty sure I'd slap Mary...