Was bound to happen eventually...
Cuntalotapus reared her ugly head. She called DH and told him she wants to move to her dad's a hour and 15 mins away (on a good day) She of course wants to take SS13. DH said no and reminded her of the provision in their agreement that states that if either parent moves and it impacts the other parents time then custody reverts to that parent. She started throwing a fit and screaming that he tricked her into signing that paperwork and that she is his mother! The co-parenting counselor went over it with both DH and BM. It was signed (by the three of them)and then filed with the court and then signed by a judge. Not to mention she wanted that provision.
DH and I talked about it and I told him we'd fight it. I'm not worried about a big custody battle because BM has no money and ALWAYS settles out of court. It is 50.00 every time they have to go to the coparenting counselor and BM tries to limit those visits as well. DH asked me if I would think he's a bad person if he didn't fight it. He would just ask SS if he wants to go and if he said he wanted to move with BM then just let him go. (Why wouldn't he want to go there? It's fun there and BM lets him do whatever he wants) He said that he hates that he feels this way but he's tired of fighting a losing battle. We'd just move forward with our lives and we could see him EOWE or just holidays/summer break if we decide to move out of state. I mean why stay here if we don't want to be here when the only reason we moved here was for him?
I know it was a moment of weakness and my heart breaks for him. We won't just move on with our lives...DH will be devastated and not to be selfish so will MY son, who just worships SS.
I just don't know what to advise him to do. IF she tries to take it to court I don't know that we'll win.
The two things that tick me off the most are that DH's family could really use some help with FIL and DH's Gran. They are both extremely ill but we don't because BM would NEVER just let us leave with him and we don't really think the court would let us move with SS. but she thinks it's okay to move to her dad's and separate SS from DH because her DADDEEEEEE needs help with his business. AND that her stupid decisions affect our lives so much. Not just DH and SS but DS and myself as well.