I really don't know what part of this conversation aggravates me more...
DH called me yesterday when I was on my way home from work.
DH: Hey when did you buy these apples
ME: Yesterday. Why?
DH: Did you check them before you both them?
ME: For what? I make sure they are bruised or anything.
DH: When I came home there were 4 apples smashed in the driveway and SS said that he tried to eat an apple for snack but it was rotten so he threw it outside and then he said all of them were rotten.
ME: Uh huh. Do you actually believe that? 1. they most certainly NOT rotten because I took one to work with me and it was fine. 2. if they were bad why did he smash them into the ground? Why not just throw them in the trash?
DH: IDK he's a boy, they do things differently
ME: Uh huh. Well what was his excuse for me coming home and finding that he had smashed an entire bag of MY halos (no one eats them but me), some of which were smashed in the garage door. Were all of those bad also?
DH: *crickets* IDK maybe he's angry
ME: MAYBE you should try to find another therapist for him to talk to.
DH: Yea I'll call around on Monday. (It won't happen, this kid has been to numerous therapists over the last 5-6 years who he consistently tells that there is nothing wrong)
ME: Okay sounds like a plan
DH: Maybe he just has a hard time you know it was just me and him for so long.
ME: (very frustrated as I REALLY effin hate hearing that statement) No, DH you had him for the first 2 years of his life and then for 3 years you had him 50% of the time. We have been together for 7.5 years and DS is 6 years old. I would think at this point he has gotten over that "it used to be just me and dad" crap. (Maybe I'm wrong?)
DH: Well he's always asking for alone time with me. Seriously? then go do something with him. Every day he's with us he gets minimum of 2 hours alone with you. If he needs more than that (which I think they should go do whatever it is fathers and sons do) then PLAN SOMETHING.
DH: Why are you getting so upset?
ME: because this makes me feel like the two of you wish that DS and I weren't around because THAT can be arranged.(okay maybe I overreacted here. I probably shouldn't have said that but it really pisses me off when he says this. I shouldn't have to make myself and DS scarce whenever SS is there. It's my effin house too)
DH: You know that's not it.
ME: Really? Then why do you y'all hang out in the afternoon and when DS and I come home SS makes a beeline for his room and doesn't come out until dinner and then disappears back into his room after dinner?
DH: IDK why he does that.
ME: Fine, whatever, I'm at DS's daycare I'll see you when I get home.
SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO in response to this ridiculous conversation that I let get to me. When I got home I put DS in his room and let him watch some minding numbing cartoons and I stayed in the kitchen while dinner was cooking so DH and SS could continue to watch whatever ridiculousness they were watching on tv. Why did SS come in the kitchen 7 times? I actually counted. I wanted so badly to be mean and say "get out of here. I'm giving you your one on one time with your dad."
Then after we ate dinner guess where SS went? Yep, his room. I'm over it. In the beginning I could totally understand that he was used to being with just DH on DH's time. But it's been 7 years now. I don't mind if they go off and do something just the two of them but they NEVER go and do anything. I fail to see how this is my fault. If they want to sit around on their butts and play video games then they should just tell me and I will gladly take DS and go do something without them. I want to be sensitive to his needs, I do, but I don't know what he needs at this point.