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Submitted by frustratedstepdad on Mon, 07/18/2011 - 10:59pm

My SD21 is so damn lazy it drives me up a wall. She lives here rent-free, drives my wife's car all over God's green earth with no respect to how much it costs us for the payments. I don't remember the last time her lazy ass has washed dishes. We left for the weekend and when we came back, all of the glasses were dirty. Instead of washing them, she starting using the wine glasses. How pathetic can you be??? My wife has said to let her handle things with SD21, but I'm finding it hard to bite my tongue. Only thing that keeps me in check is the fact that we are taking in less than a month for our anniversary and I don't want there to be tension on our trip.

I'm just tired of watching her lazy ass get to live carefree. Hell she doesn't even have to cook dinner for her 2 yr old son since we do all the cooking.

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Submitted by frustratedstepdad on Tue, 07/19/2011 - 8:26am

And of course I look at the bank account, and I see that my wife has withdrawn some cash. Neither one of us carry cash, which means she gave some money to SD21! Sad So sick of this crap. I'm halfway tempted to withdraw all of the money out of our account and just keep the cash hidden in our house so she can't give out money anymore.

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Submitted by dragonfly5 on Tue, 07/19/2011 - 9:42am

You are at the end of your rope. From your post I gather you and your wife have a joint acct. Maybe it would be better if you didn't. Divided the expenses and be done with it. She should not be giving her grown daughter money out of your joint account without running it by you.

The sad thing is you wife really isn't doing her daughter any favors. You must teach children to be responsible, so that they make wise choices and take care of themselves. 21 is way to old to living off mommy.

I hate this for you. It must be hard for you to stand by and watch this situation. I don't know if I could bite my tongue.

Heck, who am I fooling...I wouldn't.

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Submitted by poppyseed on Tue, 07/19/2011 - 4:12pm

I really feel for you. I'm in similar situation, but SS21 doesnt live with us thank god!!!Although when he's over my DH will take him places and have meals all paid for by DH. As we dont really have joint financed I have to keep my mouth shut, but I find it very hard. Specially since SS21 claims he costs his mother hardly anything lol!!
If your wife is willing to listen to what you have to say, then I say you're lucky-tell her!! Dont keep your mouth shut! Its hard enough your SD21act like a child living off you, but having a baby and still acting like a child? I dont think so.
If your wife is not understanding, then like someone suggested proposing separate finances would be a good idea. Might give your wife a kick she needs to pass onto the daughter...