It is fair so get over it!
Every Christmas morning all I hear from my father in law is how I over bought for the kids. This year was my stepsons10 turn spend Christmas with his mother in another state.
Times have been tough and we didn't get as much as we normally have for the kids not that they missed out in any way shape or form. I don't do presents from Santa for my step son when he does not spend Christmas with us. Santa came there. And he got a PSP. My oldest Ds13 got a 32 inch hd flat screen TV from Santa. Walmarts black friday deal. My daughter7 got an electric scooter From Santa. From us My daughter and my son got tablets And my step son got the razor car That does 180 degree turns. Exactly what each of them wanted. Every year they get a big ticket item from Santa as well as a big ticket item for my husband and I. DD1 Got less expensive gifts because she's only one. She got a ride and Little Tikes princess coup as her big gift which was only $35 on Black Friday from Santa. And a water table and a rocking horse from us which again only total $35 together. DD1 Only had like four gifts besides that From us one of which was a blanket. I had to hear about it from father in law that I bought her too much. He looked extremely ticked off when my kids opened up tablets, Mind you do your daughters tablet was a kids tablet I only spent $35 for on sale And my sons tablet was $49 the same price as stepsons razor car On Black Friday deals.
Last year my in laws bought both the boys tablets. SS Broke his in a matter of weeks Droped down the stairs cracked the screen. They were able to replace it because it was so soon after Christmas. Broken again this summer Dropping it on the tile floor Because he refused to use the tablet cover I bought him. So mother in law decided After husband and I said no more tablets for him To upgrade her own tablet and then let him have hers. This p*** me off last year I bought both the boys a 3DS for Christmas and this summer when DS13 Got his stolen on a plane either that or he left it. I told him it wasn't going to get replaced any more than we were replacing SS10's tablet. So after an argument she gives it to step son to "borrow". He lost it literally can't find it anywhere less than a month later. Shortly after that Ds13 Puts his tablet on the bookshelf And magically the screen winds up cracked when he goes for the next time. I can't say if it was step son or my dear daughter that did it Because I wasn't there but I know my son did not. He's nothing if not honest when it comes to these things. So yes he did get a new tablet for Christmas he has never broken his And spent a year taking good care of the one that he had.
2 days After Christmas is my mother in law's birthday. We are at their house To celebrate and I Hear from my husband " Did we get stepson enough for Christmas?" I said yeah actually I spent more on Him from us then I did on the other kids when you factor in the cell phone you bought him On the way to the airport. " But Oldest got a TV". My reply is so what stepson got a PSP. I know this was my FIL Chirping in his ear when I wasn't around. On one hand father in law does nothing but complain that I overspent on the kids And then complain if step son doesn't get everything that he wants along with exactly what the other kids want as well. I spent $150 from us and $175 on stepson. Its nothing if not fair. $200 from Santa on their gifts is my limit and I actually went a little under. I don't feel I have to up the amount I spend on step son just because he's not here for Christmas. Santa came there. Step son got $100 PSP just like my son got $100 TV. On years that Santa comes here for stepson I don't buy my other kids extra to match what step sons mom got him.